Its all very well getting the date that you have been dreaming of but next you have to decide what to do when you meet. The boring and predictable first date is a trip to a bar where you spend the evening trying to make conversation. If you know a little about your dream date beforehand you can make the evening more fun and interesting and avoid the effort of trying to make small talk, but not wanting to send you off on a dull and boring date here are a few ideas to get you started.
- Bowling is a great way to spend a first date. You can have a lot of fun and when the small talk gets difficult, you will have something to do and chat about – your prowess (or not) at bowling.
- If you know that your date will enjoy the outdoors, arrange a visit to a country park and, if there is a boating lake, you can row around the lake a few times. Take a blanket, a bottle of wine and two crystal wine glasses (not cheap plastic ones) so you can sit by the lake and have a drink or two – don’t forget the cork screw!
- Another great and original idea that I read about recently was to have dinner out. I know that’s not too original but the idea is to have an aperitif in one place, then move on to another place for each different course, finishing up in a coffee shop where you can chat about the different places that you’ve been.
- What about a visit to a theme park – if your date likes to have fun and would enjoy the thrill of the rides then this would be a great way to spend the time – but do make sure that your date knows that you will be doing this so she will know not to wear a short skirt and 4 inch stilettos.
- Then of course there is the romantic picnic – take a few nibbles such as chips, nuts, some chicken (don’t forget hand wipes!) etc. Even if the weather in your country is not traditionally picnic weather – how romantic would it be to produce a picnic basket from the trunk of the car and sit looking out at an amazing view, whilst you eat and drink a glass of wine?
Whatever you decide to do on your first date, you should avoid spending the time talking about yourself, your great job, your great life and how great you are – even if it’s all true! You should be interested in your date and ask about them, this also puts the attention back onto them to join in the conversation. Avoid questions that can be answered with one word such as, ”do you like sport?” The answer to that could simply be “No (or yes)”. Ask questions like “what do you like about…..?” Answering this would involve giving an opinion which opens the way for an easy conversation.
If the first date is uncomfortable and you have not enjoyed it, then move on and don’t agree to another date just so you don’t hurt anyone’s feelings. There will be the perfect someone that comes along eventually.