My kids just don’t seem to get the brother sister love thingy. When I was growing up it did bother me a bit that I didn’t have any brother or sisters but then I probably was looking at it all through rose tinted specs. But it made me determined that any children I did have wouldn’t be only children. Hence I have a 13 year old boy currently winding his older 15 year old sister up. She is retaliating with shouting (loud enough for me to hear of course) for him to stop being so annoying, or to shut up or move out the way. It’s when it’s followed by silence I know one of them has dealt a hefty blow and I wait to hear who is complaining the most to work out who did what.
Is it in built that as kid’s brothers and sisters don’t get on? Is it the case that the more they hate each other as kids the better they get on when they are older? I ask in vain clutching at straws.
I really hope that when they are older they realise I really wasn’t being mean by having a second child or by having the first child to annoy the second. I want them to get on, be there for each other. To chat and support each other, not try to half murder each other or to make such an atmosphere that a carving knife would have trouble slicing through it.
Did you get on with your siblings when younger? Are you friends with them now? Do you wish you were an only child or maybe you’re an only child wishing the same for your children? Let me know.
I’m the oldest and have two younger brothers. As really little kids yeah we got along. As older kids we fought more. As teens my middle brother and I clashed like oil and vinegar. Now as adults we love each other and have each other’s backs.
I have three kids myself and they get along pretty well most of the time but they’re still young– the oldest just turned 9. I know it’s going to be hell in like 5 or 6 years.
that does give me hope that when they are older they may like each other again. Anything more will be a bonus.
This all sounds so familiar! I have 4 sisters and we fought like cat and dog- we’re really good friends now though!My three are 7,2 and 6months and the 2 year old is like jekyl and Hyde. With his big sister, he hits, scratches, pulls her hair and generally annoys her all day. With the little sister though, he is an angel- so gentle and loving. I’m sure the fighting is more normal though!
I was almost an only child as my ‘youngest’ sister was 14 years older than me! I have two (half)sisters and a (half)brother and we have had our fallings out. Actually I haven’t spoken to my brother for nearly 20 years now, no great shakes.
I have three daughters who are 14, 4 and almost 2. They are great friends most of the time but yes, there are occasions where the shouts go up or someone cries (normally the 4 year old). However, they miss each other when one is away from home for nursery or school and they sit and cuddle and care for each other a lot so I am sure they will just get closer as time goes on.
Everyone knows boys are annoying though 😉