Confessions of a Single Mum

Self esteem is a harder to tackle as you have probably spent many, many years accepting and listening to your own negative thoughts. But it is something that can be addressed. Because if it’s not addressed then it doesn’t matter how great you look you will never feel it. Or whatever dress size or how you weigh you’re still not going to feel good or happy.

So what is self-esteem? Well it’s the bit of you that gives yourself value and helps you stand up for yourself. We maybe be born with heaps of it, it does get eroded by parents, teachers, comments from friends and even lovers. So if you are someone who always remembers the insults and discards the compliments and always put yourself down or thinks you deserve less than others than it’s a case of low self esteem.

 Learn to appreciate things about yourself other than your looks – What strengths or talents do you have? Get out there and find out if you’re not too sure. Starts to see and embrace other things in your body besides beauty.

 Drop the lazy thinking – lazy thinking is thinking that if you just reach a certain dress size or look a certain way then you will be happy. It’s also thinking that no one else knows what it is like for you and worrying that people are judging you because you don’t look perfect. Stop with the lazy thinking as it’s not true. No one is perfect, just a quick look around will show you we are all made up of different types and sizes. And the person who is judging you for not being perfect is actually you, which means you can stop doing it.

 Appreciate your body and your mind – appreciate your body for what it can do now, for how far it has brought you in life. Ok you might not be where you want to be yet but its not all bad and neither are you. We all have times when we feel unfit, unhealthy and beat of selves up for choices we have made but instead of using all that to make yourself feel bad, change it and remember its you who can alter those things.

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