Comments for Confessions of a Single Mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:48:31 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= Comment on Child and Tax Credits by Tina http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/child-and-tax-credits/#comment-5021 Tina Sat, 04 Feb 2012 16:48:31 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=975#comment-5021 Hello Confessions of a single mum, your content on this website is really great. Its great material that you typed here. I can not wait to read more of this. Allright, what we have here is really a awsome site. Thank you, i bookmarked it and subscribed it on my RSS reader. Hello Confessions of a single mum, your content on this website is really great. Its great material that you typed here. I can not wait to read more of this. Allright, what we have here is really a awsome site. Thank you, i bookmarked it and subscribed it on my RSS reader.

]]> Comment on Proposed Changes to CSA by Anonymous http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/#comment-4912 Anonymous Wed, 01 Feb 2012 21:58:58 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2012#comment-4912 The whole system needs to be readdressed, whilst there is injustice to a lot of mothers, there is also a lot of injustice to a lot of fathers. The trouble is, each situation is different and a number of factors aren't taken into account that should be. I am all for fathers contributing towards their children. In my situation, my husband has 2 children with his ex wife and he was totally stung in the divorce settlement ... She was left with an awful lot of equity in the property and he, hardly anything in comparison to what the property was worth, anything that could and couldn't be deducted from his settlement was! Basically my husband didn't want to make the situation anymore difficult for his children than it was, so he went along with it. He then paid £50 per week to his ex wife for the children ... Even though we couldn't afford it and built up debt doing so. Then we got into real financial difficulty after 3 years of paying £50 per week and missed 11 payments over a 6 month period ... And it took her 6 months to notice we'd missed these payments ... That's how bad a situation she's in. She then demanded all the money in an extra £50 per week or she was going to the c/a. Well, we just didn't have a £100 per week to give her and so she went to the csa. In some ways it has worked out better as, based on my husbands income she got less than we were giving because we simply can't afford it, but based on the fact she intended to use the csa as a weapon rather than a mediator suggests that there needs to be some reform. If I was left all the equity she was left, I'd thank my lucky stars and wouldn't even have the cheek to ask for anymore money. Now, my husband loves his children and wants the best for them and has always contributed, yet, due to his missed payments she told the children he didn't contribute towards them, which wasn't the case and created insecurities in them that are totally unfounded. It may be impractical to review each case on an individual basis, but something must be done to make it more fair and maybe take divorce settlements into account. The whole system needs to be readdressed, whilst there is injustice to a lot of mothers, there is also a lot of injustice to a lot of fathers. The trouble is, each situation is different and a number of factors aren’t taken into account that should be. I am all for fathers contributing towards their children. In my situation, my husband has 2 children with his ex wife and he was totally stung in the divorce settlement … She was left with an awful lot of equity in the property and he, hardly anything in comparison to what the property was worth, anything that could and couldn’t be deducted from his settlement was! Basically my husband didn’t want to make the situation anymore difficult for his children than it was, so he went along with it. He then paid £50 per week to his ex wife for the children … Even though we couldn’t afford it and built up debt doing so. Then we got into real financial difficulty after 3 years of paying £50 per week and missed 11 payments over a 6 month period … And it took her 6 months to notice we’d missed these payments … That’s how bad a situation she’s in. She then demanded all the money in an extra £50 per week or she was going to the c/a. Well, we just didn’t have a £100 per week to give her and so she went to the csa. In some ways it has worked out better as, based on my husbands income she got less than we were giving because we simply can’t afford it, but based on the fact she intended to use the csa as a weapon rather than a mediator suggests that there needs to be some reform.
If I was left all the equity she was left, I’d thank my lucky stars and wouldn’t even have the cheek to ask for anymore money. Now, my husband loves his children and wants the best for them and has always contributed, yet, due to his missed payments she told the children he didn’t contribute towards them, which wasn’t the case and created insecurities in them that are totally unfounded. It may be impractical to review each case on an individual basis, but something must be done to make it more fair and maybe take divorce settlements into account.

]]> Comment on Proposed Changes to CSA by Linda morris http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/#comment-4877 Linda morris Tue, 31 Jan 2012 20:23:36 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2012#comment-4877 Ok It is time the goverment stopped allowing unemployed women to kjeep all of the money as we all know they will never get a job, another thing the goverment really needs to sort out the mess they are in regarding siblings when one decides to live with one parent who doesent work and the other lives weith the one who does work, can you tell me why the person who sits on their backside and doesent work gets more money a week than the person who does work? that in itself is totally wrong. Ok It is time the goverment stopped allowing unemployed women to kjeep all of the money as we all know they will never get a job, another thing the goverment really needs to sort out the mess they are in regarding siblings when one decides to live with one parent who doesent work and the other lives weith the one who does work, can you tell me why the person who sits on their backside and doesent work gets more money a week than the person who does work? that in itself is totally wrong.

]]> Comment on Proposed Changes to CSA by Lee http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/#comment-4831 Lee Mon, 30 Jan 2012 21:24:56 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2012#comment-4831 Well when my ex got into Facebook that messed our relationship up and said she had no feelings for me . So I moved out to my brothers left but still kept paying the 600 pound a month mortgage for 6 months . Fair I think so any way we agreed when her mom brought me out the house that I would pay her 150 pound a month for my son yes 1 kid so soon has her mom brought me out 3 days after she got the CSa on me great ex Ay. So ended up paying 200 pound amonth but she had another son from her previous which her ex don't pay for but thinks I'm his dad but she still wants to pay for him too and birthday presents and Xmas presents I do spend what I can on both of them treat them equal I think personally the government should do a set rate per child it's not a bout how much you earn it's about the child having enough money each week. That should go straight across the board My one mate pays CSa they get more than a grown adult unemployed can't work it out your prob get what 65 week on unemployed but you pay to your ex 60 a week or even more for 1 child where grown up has his own place too and bills and lives alone with no child tax credits or child benefit or CSa payments god that's 3 lot of income to your ex straight away dad are the victims All needs to be looked at again if not I think British airways are going to have alot customers good luck everyone hope it all works out for you Well when my ex got into Facebook that messed our relationship up and said she had no feelings for me .
So I moved out to my brothers left but still kept paying the 600 pound a month mortgage for 6 months . Fair I think so any way we agreed when her mom brought me out the house that I would pay her 150 pound a month for my son yes 1 kid so soon has her mom brought me out 3 days after she got the CSa on me great ex Ay. So ended up paying 200 pound amonth but she had another son from her previous which her ex don’t pay for but thinks I’m his dad but she still wants to pay for him too and birthday presents and Xmas presents I do spend what I can on both of them treat them equal I think personally the government should do a set rate per child it’s not a bout how much you earn it’s about the child having enough money each week. That should go straight across the board
My one mate pays CSa they get more than a grown adult unemployed can’t work it out your prob get what 65 week on unemployed but you pay to your ex 60 a week or even more for 1 child where grown up has his own place too and bills and lives alone with no child tax credits or child benefit or CSa payments god that’s 3 lot of income to your ex straight away dad are the victims All needs to be looked at again if not I think British airways are going to have alot customers good luck everyone hope it all works out for you

]]> Comment on Proposed Changes to CSA by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/#comment-4817 Confessions of a single mum Mon, 30 Jan 2012 11:43:48 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2012#comment-4817 I think the biggest problem is that they are trying to fix many situations and scenarios with one answer. Because every one and every situation is different and unique they are never going to get it right whatever system they decide on. I think the biggest problem is that they are trying to fix many situations and scenarios with one answer. Because every one and every situation is different and unique they are never going to get it right whatever system they decide on.

]]> Comment on Proposed Changes to CSA by Brian http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/#comment-4816 Brian Mon, 30 Jan 2012 11:30:16 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2012#comment-4816 All I have been reading about is fathers that don’t pay. What about Fathers that do want to pay? The CSA make it easer because my ex wife lied about not being paid. The CSA actually provide me with evidence because initially after me and my ex wife separated I was paying for my children, but then my ex contact the CSA and told them I wasn’t paying a penny. I had to prove to the CSA that I was paying but because she wanted more money she tried to lie. Eventually the CSA realised what was going on and did not back date payments as I had already paid. I am happy to contribute to my children and the CSA provide a safety net for me to do so. The CSA provide me with proof of payments although I do not wish to pay additional fees. I feel it has to be a charge incurred by both resident and non resident parent otherwise it is open to abuse by the resident parent as it was in my case. All I have been reading about is fathers that don’t pay.

What about Fathers that do want to pay? The CSA make it easer because my ex wife lied about not being paid.

The CSA actually provide me with evidence because initially after me and my ex wife separated I was paying for my children, but then my ex contact the CSA and told them I wasn’t paying a penny. I had to prove to the CSA that I was paying but because she wanted more money she tried to lie.

Eventually the CSA realised what was going on and did not back date payments as I had already paid. I am happy to contribute to my children and the CSA provide a safety net for me to do so.

The CSA provide me with proof of payments although I do not wish to pay additional fees.

I feel it has to be a charge incurred by both resident and non resident parent otherwise it is open to abuse by the resident parent as it was in my case.

]]> Comment on Proposed Changes to CSA by Danielle http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/#comment-4815 Danielle Mon, 30 Jan 2012 10:19:08 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2012#comment-4815 My two children receive £200 a year from there father via the CSA. Their father is clever at playing the system , because he is self employed he ensures his tax return is below £5000 a year, yet his life style certainly doesn't reflect this in any way - I won't bore you with I am sure familiar details. There is nothing more I can do via the CSA to increase the figure and I accept that. Should there be a fee charged, it wouldn't be worth me trying to recuperate this meager sum of £200 as it would all go on fees payable by me- yet again he get away with not supporting his children at all. Negotiating with him is not an option as he has made it clear he doesn't want to contribute at all. In the final divorce settlement I was advised to leave the maintenance and sort it out with the CSA . Going back to court is damaging for all in every sense apart from taking up valuable time I need to spend on supporting my children. My children are young so I have many years ahead supporting them alone - £200 a year isn't a lot but it helps buying a few things My two children receive £200 a year from there father via the CSA. Their father is clever at playing the system , because he is self employed he ensures his tax return is below £5000 a year, yet his life style certainly doesn’t reflect this in any way – I won’t bore you with I am sure familiar details. There is nothing more I can do via the CSA to increase the figure and I accept that. Should there be a fee charged, it wouldn’t be worth me trying to recuperate this meager sum of £200 as it would all go on fees payable by me- yet again he get away with not supporting his children at all.
Negotiating with him is not an option as he has made it clear he doesn’t want to contribute at all.
In the final divorce settlement I was advised to leave the maintenance and sort it out with the CSA . Going back to court is damaging for all in every sense apart from taking up valuable time I need to spend on supporting my children.
My children are young so I have many years ahead supporting them alone – £200 a year isn’t a lot but it helps buying a few things

]]> Comment on Which Benefits are Changing and When by Isabella http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/which-benefits-are-changing-and-when/#comment-4784 Isabella Fri, 27 Jan 2012 15:40:42 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3487#comment-4784 Thanks for taking the time to write such a clear and succinct summary of the changes with easy links. Thanks for taking the time to write such a clear and succinct summary of the changes with easy links.

]]> Comment on I Am What I Am by susan http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/i-am-what-i-am/#comment-4769 susan Thu, 26 Jan 2012 10:37:46 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3472#comment-4769 no you are not JUST a cleaner. You're self employed and own a cleaning business. Well done! I'm self employed too and is is hard to explain to people...not least becuase part of what I do is help single mums get off benefit and into self employment:) No you shouldn't have to make an excuse - but be proud of what you do, and talk it up. You deserve it! no you are not JUST a cleaner. You’re self employed and own a cleaning business. Well done!
I’m self employed too and is is hard to explain to people…not least becuase part of what I do is help single mums get off benefit and into self employment:)
No you shouldn’t have to make an excuse – but be proud of what you do, and talk it up. You deserve it!

]]> Comment on I’m not a mum but a M.U.M by Claire H http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/im-not-a-mum-but-a-m-u-m/#comment-4758 Claire H Wed, 25 Jan 2012 08:23:21 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3467#comment-4758 I must admit I held my breath halfway through your post, being a (slightly) older mum. My teen changes her mind about how cool I am, it changes roughly around the time when she needs some more money! One of my 11 year old twin boys certainly views me as a Mainly Utterly Mortifying, as with the other I can do no wrong. Whatever they think of you, I find, you never change how you think about them - that's what being a mum is. I must admit I held my breath halfway through your post, being a (slightly) older mum. My teen changes her mind about how cool I am, it changes roughly around the time when she needs some more money!
One of my 11 year old twin boys certainly views me as a Mainly Utterly Mortifying, as with the other I can do no wrong. Whatever they think of you, I find, you never change how you think about them – that’s what being a mum is.

]]> Comment on Single Mum of Four Gains two Degrees. by Helen http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/in-the-news/single-mum-of-four-gains-two-degrees/#comment-4752 Helen Mon, 23 Jan 2012 13:34:52 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=1408#comment-4752 I am a mum of four with just as much determination. however I have a husband who earns around £21,000 a year. Therefore do not have the opportunity to get the degree in social care that i have wanted since my 4TH baby was born over 3 years ago. My options are stay at home or work in a supermarket! sometimes being a single parent is much more beneficial than having a loving husband who works hard to keep us afloat! I am a mum of four with just as much determination. however I have a husband who earns around £21,000 a year. Therefore do not have the opportunity to get the degree in social care that i have wanted since my 4TH baby was born over 3 years ago. My options are stay at home or work in a supermarket! sometimes being a single parent is much more beneficial than having a loving husband who works hard to keep us afloat!

]]> Comment on I’m not a mum but a M.U.M by Liska http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/im-not-a-mum-but-a-m-u-m/#comment-4743 Liska Sun, 22 Jan 2012 18:40:18 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3467#comment-4743 I came here via your tweet - not been before - great post and I remember being THAT teen x I came here via your tweet – not been before – great post and I remember being THAT teen x

]]> Comment on Saving Money Generally by 5 Money Generally Sites http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/saving-money-generally/#comment-4717 5 Money Generally Sites Wed, 18 Jan 2012 23:50:30 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=443#comment-4717 [...] Saving Money Generally | Confessions of a Single MumTips on how to save money generally on things aorund the home. [...] [...] Saving Money Generally | Confessions of a Single MumTips on how to save money generally on things aorund the home. [...]

]]> Comment on Parenting Tips for Single Mums by Sarah http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/being-a-single-mum/parenting-tips-for-single-mums/#comment-4714 Sarah Wed, 18 Jan 2012 13:21:07 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=1229#comment-4714 Hi there I have just discovered your blog and find it a complete relief to see I am not the only one dealing with all these issues, most of my friends are still with their kids Dads so they dont always get it. I have a "dreamer dawdler" I got so sick of nagging only to feel completely invisible after many tears (from me) I decided on a colourful step by step (with times) laminated morning routine and a dry wipe marker so that dreamy boy can tick off when he has done something and then I dont have to nag and we can all have a nice morning .... it worked for a week or so but now the novelty is wearing off and we are back to Nag city !! Hi there

I have just discovered your blog and find it a complete relief to see I am not the only one dealing with all these issues, most of my friends are still with their kids Dads so they dont always get it. I have a “dreamer dawdler” I got so sick of nagging only to feel completely invisible after many tears (from me) I decided on a colourful step by step (with times) laminated morning routine and a dry wipe marker so that dreamy boy can tick off when he has done something and then I dont have to nag and we can all have a nice morning …. it worked for a week or so but now the novelty is wearing off and we are back to Nag city !!

]]> Comment on Perfect Parents and the Lies we Tell by Kevin http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/confessions/perfect-parents-and-the-lies-we-tell/#comment-4620 Kevin Wed, 11 Jan 2012 14:57:11 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=1843#comment-4620 Sounds like you are doing an awesome job, keep it up! I would try to be their best friend too. You will find you can have a lot of fun with them though I am sure you already do this. I love playing a board game called Frustration with my nephews, the whole family gets involved and often the adults are the ones getting more excited. Including myself lol :) Sounds like you are doing an awesome job, keep it up! I would try to be their best friend too. You will find you can have a lot of fun with them though I am sure you already do this. I love playing a board game called Frustration with my nephews, the whole family gets involved and often the adults are the ones getting more excited. Including myself lol :)

]]> Comment on Housing and Council Tax Benefit by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/housing-and-council-tax-benefit/#comment-4614 Confessions of a single mum Wed, 11 Jan 2012 08:02:45 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=917#comment-4614 It would probably be best if you contacted http://www.turn2us.org.uk . On the turn2ussite you can see with their calculator what you might be entitled to. It would probably be best if you contacted http://www.turn2us.org.uk . On the turn2ussite you can see with their calculator what you might be entitled to.

]]> Comment on Housing and Council Tax Benefit by jane http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/housing-and-council-tax-benefit/#comment-4609 jane Tue, 10 Jan 2012 19:07:37 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=917#comment-4609 hi I have just spilt up from my partner i have been living in france i have a 15 year old son and i have basically nothing can anyone help me with what if any, benefits i can get. thanks jane hi
I have just spilt up from my partner i have been living in france i have a 15 year old son and i have basically nothing can anyone help me with what if any, benefits i can get.
thanks
jane

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by Dannie Lu http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4570 Dannie Lu Sun, 08 Jan 2012 07:48:05 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4570 as someone about to embark on choice single motherhood, things like these are invaluable. Thank you! as someone about to embark on choice single motherhood, things like these are invaluable. Thank you!

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by Workingberlinmum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4491 Workingberlinmum Mon, 02 Jan 2012 09:48:40 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4491 I can completely relate to this list as a fellow single mum. I especially love the 'beneifts' part. So many people seem to think everyone happily just lives off the state but oh how I dream of getting off benefits. Here's to 2012 being the year! I can completely relate to this list as a fellow single mum. I especially love the ‘beneifts’ part. So many people seem to think everyone happily just lives off the state but oh how I dream of getting off benefits. Here’s to 2012 being the year!

]]> Comment on What if There Was No Christmas by Mistress Mummy http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/what-if-there-was-no-christmas/#comment-4484 Mistress Mummy Sun, 01 Jan 2012 15:35:13 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3429#comment-4484 Great point, but one day is enough with my family! Great point, but one day is enough with my family!

]]> Comment on Proposed Changes to CSA by Linda morris http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/proposed-changes-to-csa/#comment-4468 Linda morris Fri, 30 Dec 2011 23:10:30 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2012#comment-4468 How about Mr amd Mrs Smith have 2 children and they have one each? Mr smith works and pays £38 pounds a week and Mrs Smith doesent wanna work and pays £5 a week? How about Mr amd Mrs Smith have 2 children and they have one each? Mr smith works and pays £38 pounds a week and Mrs Smith doesent wanna work and pays £5 a week?

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by Older Single Mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4463 Older Single Mum Fri, 30 Dec 2011 15:11:59 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4463 Hiya, You have excelled yoursef with that A_Z list. Thought you might have said - 'Make sure you get enough zzzzzs!' V comprehensiveand well done. Hiya, You have excelled yoursef with that A_Z list. Thought you might have said – ‘Make sure you get enough zzzzzs!’ V comprehensiveand well done.

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4462 Confessions of a single mum Fri, 30 Dec 2011 14:01:03 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4462 yes T should be for twitter too. There are so many more I could have added in. yes T should be for twitter too. There are so many more I could have added in.

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by Notmyyearoff http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4461 Notmyyearoff Fri, 30 Dec 2011 13:59:02 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4461 Excellent list! I though T might be for Twitter :) Excellent list! I though T might be for Twitter :)

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by clare http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4458 clare Fri, 30 Dec 2011 07:57:03 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4458 great post - thanks! and all true (including the zzzz's) great post – thanks! and all true (including the zzzz’s)

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4456 Confessions of a single mum Thu, 29 Dec 2011 20:49:00 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4456 thank you and oh so very true. thank you and oh so very true.

]]> Comment on My A to Z of Being a Single Parent by susan http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-a-to-z-of-being-a-single-parent/#comment-4455 susan Thu, 29 Dec 2011 20:44:26 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3451#comment-4455 z for zzzzz....the thing I never seem to get enough of. maybe when the kids leave home? brilliant post. Happy new year:) z for zzzzz….the thing I never seem to get enough of. maybe when the kids leave home?
brilliant post. Happy new year:)

]]> Comment on What if There Was No Christmas by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/what-if-there-was-no-christmas/#comment-4358 Confessions of a single mum Sat, 17 Dec 2011 08:52:39 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3429#comment-4358 Yes I agree we should make more of an effort all year. Just yesterday I said the same words I had said last year to some friends "Lovely to catch up, mustn't leave it so long next time" This time I am going to really really try to not leave it a whole year again. Yes I agree we should make more of an effort all year. Just yesterday I said the same words I had said last year to some friends “Lovely to catch up, mustn’t leave it so long next time” This time I am going to really really try to not leave it a whole year again.

]]> Comment on What if There Was No Christmas by Nickie http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/what-if-there-was-no-christmas/#comment-4355 Nickie Sat, 17 Dec 2011 00:33:41 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3429#comment-4355 Good point - but even though I'm guilt of that "one day" syndrome myself, shouldn't we be making more of an effort all year round? Good point – but even though I’m guilt of that “one day” syndrome myself, shouldn’t we be making more of an effort all year round?

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by M http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4345 M Fri, 16 Dec 2011 18:15:52 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4345 I couldn't wait to go back to my maiden name!! I didn't want his name connected to mine anymore. My daughter (9) now also wants to change her surname too lol I couldn’t wait to go back to my maiden name!! I didn’t want his name connected to mine anymore.

My daughter (9) now also wants to change her surname too lol

]]> Comment on Being a Single Mum Is by Isra http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/being-a-single-mum/being-a-single-mum-is/#comment-4341 Isra Fri, 16 Dec 2011 16:00:15 +0000 http://confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=104#comment-4341 Amen! I never realised it was so hard, thought being a mum was it. but being a single mum is just...well it's everything you've listed! x Amen! I never realised it was so hard, thought being a mum was it. but being a single mum is just…well it’s everything you’ve listed! x

]]> Comment on What Not To Do On a Date by Nickie http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/online-dating-2/what-not-to-do-on-a-date/#comment-4311 Nickie Sat, 10 Dec 2011 01:18:16 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2330#comment-4311 I have never experienced the "joys" on online dating or otherwise - I'd be crap at it. Really crap!! I'd give out all the information you're not supposed to, forget to ring my "safe person" and probably end up with Mr Very Wrong. I'm still laughing at your climb through the window :-D I have never experienced the “joys” on online dating or otherwise – I’d be crap at it. Really crap!! I’d give out all the information you’re not supposed to, forget to ring my “safe person” and probably end up with Mr Very Wrong.

I’m still laughing at your climb through the window :-D

]]> Comment on A Small Crafting Moment by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/a-small-crafting-moment/#comment-4271 Confessions of a single mum Mon, 05 Dec 2011 09:48:50 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3403#comment-4271 Thank you. Problem is its too nice to cover it with notices lol Thank you. Problem is its too nice to cover it with notices lol

]]> Comment on A Small Crafting Moment by maggy,red ted art http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/a-small-crafting-moment/#comment-4270 maggy,red ted art Mon, 05 Dec 2011 09:28:12 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3403#comment-4270 Wow! Your notice board came out SOOOO well! I am dead impressed! Go you. Maggy Wow! Your notice board came out SOOOO well! I am dead impressed! Go you.

Maggy

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Simone http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4257 Simone Thu, 01 Dec 2011 22:31:30 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4257 I am currently just starting divorce proceedings and I have to say this is one thing that had run through my mind. As my parents live abroad I did consider how it would look at passport control with my daughter and I having different surnames etc and how it would affect her in the future. So for all around ease I have decided to keep my married name. So no, I certainly do not think it is an odd thing to do - it's forward thinking! Your blog is a godsend at the moment and is really helping!x I am currently just starting divorce proceedings and I have to say this is one thing that had run through my mind. As my parents live abroad I did consider how it would look at passport control with my daughter and I having different surnames etc and how it would affect her in the future. So for all around ease I have decided to keep my married name. So no, I certainly do not think it is an odd thing to do – it’s forward thinking!

Your blog is a godsend at the moment and is really helping!x

]]> Comment on What’s Your Christmas Traditions? by @Kanga_Rue http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/whats-your-christmas-traditions/#comment-4251 @Kanga_Rue Mon, 28 Nov 2011 11:47:15 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3398#comment-4251 We make a big deal of dressing the tree, the Christmas music goes on loud, and we dance around eating popcorn & drinking bubbles (or OJ in a champagne glass). And on Christmas Eve snuggled up together with warming drinks & read The Night Before Christmas. Santa used to ring his bell & knock on the front door just after I went to bed as a kid to make sure I was asleep, so no doubt he'll do the same for Pickle now that he's arrived. Would love to know what others do too. We make a big deal of dressing the tree, the Christmas music goes on loud, and we dance around eating popcorn & drinking bubbles (or OJ in a champagne glass).

And on Christmas Eve snuggled up together with warming drinks & read The Night Before Christmas.

Santa used to ring his bell & knock on the front door just after I went to bed as a kid to make sure I was asleep, so no doubt he’ll do the same for Pickle now that he’s arrived.

Would love to know what others do too.

]]> Comment on Single Mums Do Have Brains. by Name*Monique http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/in-the-news/single-mums-do-have-brains/#comment-4241 Name*Monique Fri, 25 Nov 2011 19:25:03 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=1405#comment-4241 I have chronic fatigue syndrom (fibromyalgia) and Im a single parent. Its difficult to shake the stigma sometimes, but hold your heads up ladies, mothers have been on their own since the beginning? and we have more brains, and better emotions to handle family life than the average man. And we function with flu! Ive come to conclude life is better without a man and am really proud of Carol. She's always been a role model for me and this has iced the cake! -I will definately buy this book! :-) and enjoy your family nomatter what life throws, evry night pat yourself on the back, you're doing fine! I have chronic fatigue syndrom (fibromyalgia) and Im a single parent. Its difficult to shake the stigma sometimes, but hold your heads up ladies, mothers have been on their own since the beginning? and we have more brains, and better emotions to handle family life than the average man. And we function with flu! Ive come to conclude life is better without a man and am really proud of Carol. She’s always been a role model for me and this has iced the cake! -I will definately buy this book! :-) and enjoy your family nomatter what life throws, evry night pat yourself on the back, you’re doing fine!

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by sharon http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4236 sharon Wed, 23 Nov 2011 18:19:21 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4236 this is the first time i have ever heard of someone keeping the married surname, i wasnt aware that this could be done, i am going through a split at the moment and will be starting a divorce proceeding soon, im wondering if i would like to keep my married name now so then i will be the same as the children this is the first time i have ever heard of someone keeping the married surname, i wasnt aware that this could be done, i am going through a split at the moment and will be starting a divorce proceeding soon, im wondering if i would like to keep my married name now so then i will be the same as the children

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Divorce Blogger http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4231 Divorce Blogger Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:39:47 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4231 An increasingly large number of women are choosing to keep their husband's surnames following a divorce and it's nearly always because children are involved. Some do it because they don't want others to know that they've become divorced, others because they don't want to go through the rigmarole of contacting various institutions and informing them of the change, but the majority do it for their children. An increasingly large number of women are choosing to keep their husband’s surnames following a divorce and it’s nearly always because children are involved.

Some do it because they don’t want others to know that they’ve become divorced, others because they don’t want to go through the rigmarole of contacting various institutions and informing them of the change, but the majority do it for their children.

]]> Comment on Kids, The Internet, Mobile Phones and Tokens by sarahmumof3 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/kids-the-internet-mobile-phones-and-tokens/#comment-4224 sarahmumof3 Fri, 18 Nov 2011 20:38:54 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2395#comment-4224 thats a great system should us parents have an allocation of tokens too? I think everyone here uses technology abit tooo much I may make some tokens it does sound a great way to make them aware of the time they are on the computers thank you thats a great system should us parents have an allocation of tokens too? I think everyone here uses technology abit tooo much I may make some tokens it does sound a great way to make them aware of the time they are on the computers thank you

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4221 Confessions of a single mum Thu, 17 Nov 2011 15:02:46 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4221 I guess its all down to personal circumstances and whatever you do is right for your situation. I guess its all down to personal circumstances and whatever you do is right for your situation.

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4220 Confessions of a single mum Thu, 17 Nov 2011 15:01:57 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4220 I actually prefer my married name to my maiden name. I wasn't that attached to my maiden name as I had had a different surname at birth, it was changed when I was adopted. That might be why I don't feel so emotionally attached to surnames. I actually prefer my married name to my maiden name. I wasn’t that attached to my maiden name as I had had a different surname at birth, it was changed when I was adopted. That might be why I don’t feel so emotionally attached to surnames.

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Mutant Supermodel http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4216 Mutant Supermodel Wed, 16 Nov 2011 17:21:05 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4216 I changed back. I am connected to my children by a bond stronger than a name but the only connection I have to their father and his disgusting family is that wretched name. So off it went. No regrets. Actually I also love my maiden name, it's very unique, and if I am ever dumb enough to get married again you can bet I won't be taking on a new one. I changed back. I am connected to my children by a bond stronger than a name but the only connection I have to their father and his disgusting family is that wretched name. So off it went. No regrets. Actually I also love my maiden name, it’s very unique, and if I am ever dumb enough to get married again you can bet I won’t be taking on a new one.

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by notsupermum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4214 notsupermum Wed, 16 Nov 2011 08:53:52 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4214 I did the same thing as Jo, as soon as my husband left I reverted back to my own name. It felt good to rid myself of his name and it was my way of reclaiming some independence. My daughters still have their dad's name, and that's fine with me. I did the same thing as Jo, as soon as my husband left I reverted back to my own name. It felt good to rid myself of his name and it was my way of reclaiming some independence. My daughters still have their dad’s name, and that’s fine with me.

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Jo http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4210 Jo Tue, 15 Nov 2011 19:30:23 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4210 I changed my name back to my maiden name via deed poll a few months after we split, it was a big thing for me to do and felt really good as I was getting back some more of me and getting rid of him (and his control) my only issue was that my son wouldn't have the same name, but it was already pretty clear then and even more now that Helios father won't be involved in is life (not my choice but his) and so he has learnt his surname to be the same as mine. In years to come I will get it legally changed but he is just a 'to be known as' at the moment. I am so glad to have my name back and Proud for my child to also have my name, I would not have liked it for us to have different names. If/when I change his name legally (it will need a court to ok it) I will probably keep his current surname as a middle name as it is his other name too. I changed my name back to my maiden name via deed poll a few months after we split, it was a big thing for me to do and felt really good as I was getting back some more of me and getting rid of him (and his control) my only issue was that my son wouldn’t have the same name, but it was already pretty clear then and even more now that Helios father won’t be involved in is life (not my choice but his) and so he has learnt his surname to be the same as mine. In years to come I will get it legally changed but he is just a ‘to be known as’ at the moment. I am so glad to have my name back and
Proud for my child to also have my name, I would not have liked it for us to have different names. If/when I change his name legally (it will need a court to ok it) I will probably keep his current surname as a middle name as it is his other name too.

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4209 Confessions of a single mum Tue, 15 Nov 2011 13:40:12 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4209 Yes I agree lots of surnames in one house can be confusing and not just for the postman.I try not to use Mrs but if forms aren't the modern kind where there is a Ms I do normally use Mrs. Glad to hear I am not as odd as I thought , thank you. Yes I agree lots of surnames in one house can be confusing and not just for the postman.I try not to use Mrs but if forms aren’t the modern kind where there is a Ms I do normally use Mrs. Glad to hear I am not as odd as I thought , thank you.

]]> Comment on Surnames and Divorce by Karen http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/surnames-and-divorce/#comment-4208 Karen Tue, 15 Nov 2011 13:30:09 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3362#comment-4208 I am divorced (9yrs ago) and have 2 daughters to my ex. Now engaged with 2 sons to my fiance. I too have kept my married name for the sake of my daughters. The thought of me with my maiden name, the girls with their dads surname then my fiance and boys with his surname all in the same house just didn't seem right. So for now I will keep using it however I did alter my title to Ms. I am no longer a Mrs and that helped me detatch myself from the 'married' aspect of my surname. I am divorced (9yrs ago) and have 2 daughters to my ex. Now engaged with 2 sons to my fiance. I too have kept my married name for the sake of my daughters.
The thought of me with my maiden name, the girls with their dads surname then my fiance and boys with his surname all in the same house just didn’t seem right. So for now I will keep using it however I did alter my title to Ms. I am no longer a Mrs and that helped me detatch myself from the ‘married’ aspect of my surname.

]]> Comment on Being a Single Mum Is by More Than a Mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/being-a-single-mum/being-a-single-mum-is/#comment-4204 More Than a Mum Sun, 13 Nov 2011 19:14:58 +0000 http://confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=104#comment-4204 Can I add another heading please? Inspirational - because this post tells me that you are. :-) Can I add another heading please? Inspirational – because this post tells me that you are. :-)

]]> Comment on I’ve gone all Karoovey by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/ive-gone-all-karoovey/#comment-4092 Confessions of a single mum Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:14:12 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3339#comment-4092 Thank you , I think I shall now be permanently covered in glitter lol Thank you , I think I shall now be permanently covered in glitter lol

]]> Comment on I’ve gone all Karoovey by Alex Watts http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/ive-gone-all-karoovey/#comment-4091 Alex Watts Wed, 09 Nov 2011 13:12:06 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3339#comment-4091 Good for you for taking the plunge. They look gorgeous, really really pretty. Good for you for taking the plunge. They look gorgeous, really really pretty.

]]> Comment on What do these names say to you? by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/what-do-these-names-say-to-you/#comment-3809 Confessions of a single mum Wed, 02 Nov 2011 09:14:23 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3332#comment-3809 lol maybe they did. Bit clever that really lol maybe they did. Bit clever that really

]]> Comment on What do these names say to you? by Him Up North http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/what-do-these-names-say-to-you/#comment-3808 Him Up North Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:53:59 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3332#comment-3808 LOL, I google them and they pop the same websites doing the same survey! Maybe they have done their homework after all :-) LOL, I google them and they pop the same websites doing the same survey! Maybe they have done their homework after all :-)

]]> Comment on What do these names say to you? by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/what-do-these-names-say-to-you/#comment-3806 Confessions of a single mum Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:40:09 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3332#comment-3806 I don't know but I would have thought and hoped they have checked that bit out . They just wanted to know what my thoughts were on the names, what the names conjured up in my mind and what my readers thought of the names. I don’t know but I would have thought and hoped they have checked that bit out . They just wanted to know what my thoughts were on the names, what the names conjured up in my mind and what my readers thought of the names.

]]> Comment on What do these names say to you? by Him Up North http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/what-do-these-names-say-to-you/#comment-3805 Him Up North Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:36:40 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3332#comment-3805 Are any of those names already taken by parent bloggers? Some sound familiar. Are any of those names already taken by parent bloggers? Some sound familiar.

]]> Comment on To Send or Not to Send a Child to Their Room by Sarah http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/being-a-single-mum/to-send-or-not-to-send-a-child-to-their-room/#comment-3747 Sarah Mon, 31 Oct 2011 15:45:17 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2406#comment-3747 Your post interested me as I am both a single mum and work as a family support worker and as such I deal with challenging behaviour from children both at home and at work. I have never sent my children to their room for bad behaviour, and never recommend anyone does for the exact reasons you state. I do however, think that a child being sent to their room to calm down is a very important way of teaching children how to put their emotions across. I notice your comment from Jane and she will probably disagree, but I don't mean that by sending your child to their room they learm how to deal with their emotions. What I mean is, it is very important to teach children how to deal with anger, frustration and being upset - but when a child cannot control their actyions and words because of their feelings then they need to be able to calm down. As an adult I count to ten, take some deep breaths and if appropriate walk away when I get angry because then I can calm down and think about how to verbalise my feelings appropriately. As a child we need to teach them how to calm down (going to their room but not as a punishment - it's ok to be angry, but take yourself away from it before your actions get you into trouble), and then once calm, it is VERY important the child still has their voice and is able to explain in words verbally or written, or through drawing, why they were angry etc. So as such I think there is a place for being sent to their room but only where this teaches them their room is a safe place to calm down, where they will not be disturbed - I hope that makes sense!! Time out should be somewhere boring and also has its place - kids rooms aren't boring!!! Hope I've made some sense there!! Your post interested me as I am both a single mum and work as a family support worker and as such I deal with challenging behaviour from children both at home and at work. I have never sent my children to their room for bad behaviour, and never recommend anyone does for the exact reasons you state. I do however, think that a child being sent to their room to calm down is a very important way of teaching children how to put their emotions across. I notice your comment from Jane and she will probably disagree, but I don’t mean that by sending your child to their room they learm how to deal with their emotions. What I mean is, it is very important to teach children how to deal with anger, frustration and being upset – but when a child cannot control their actyions and words because of their feelings then they need to be able to calm down. As an adult I count to ten, take some deep breaths and if appropriate walk away when I get angry because then I can calm down and think about how to verbalise my feelings appropriately. As a child we need to teach them how to calm down (going to their room but not as a punishment – it’s ok to be angry, but take yourself away from it before your actions get you into trouble), and then once calm, it is VERY important the child still has their voice and is able to explain in words verbally or written, or through drawing, why they were angry etc. So as such I think there is a place for being sent to their room but only where this teaches them their room is a safe place to calm down, where they will not be disturbed – I hope that makes sense!! Time out should be somewhere boring and also has its place – kids rooms aren’t boring!!! Hope I’ve made some sense there!!

]]> Comment on What’s it like to grow up knowing your adopted by Blog Carnival: On adopting and being adopted http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/whats-it-like-to-grow-up-knowing-your-adopted/#comment-3739 Blog Carnival: On adopting and being adopted Mon, 31 Oct 2011 10:44:28 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2851#comment-3739 [...] with contact. Jo’s post Who am I anyway and Confessions of a single mum’s posts about growing up knowing you’re adopted help build up a picture of what it’s like to be adopted. I liked this quote from Jo: [...] [...] with contact. Jo’s post Who am I anyway and Confessions of a single mum’s posts about growing up knowing you’re adopted help build up a picture of what it’s like to be adopted. I liked this quote from Jo: [...]

]]> Comment on Are you mum wanting to go into business? by d14mond http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/are-you-mum-wanting-to-go-into-business/#comment-3597 d14mond Thu, 27 Oct 2011 13:48:43 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3285#comment-3597 This is such a great idea I am a single mum starting up a business from home and it's slowly dawning on me that the flexibility is great for me and my child but the loneliness is just excruciating! Thanks for sharing this This is such a great idea I am a single mum starting up a business from home and it’s slowly dawning on me that the flexibility is great for me and my child but the loneliness is just excruciating!

Thanks for sharing this

]]> Comment on In Work Credit by Tracy http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/in-work-credit/#comment-3549 Tracy Tue, 25 Oct 2011 20:27:26 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=931#comment-3549 Will have to have a look for it. I just had one from them asking for payslips to proove Im still working and instead of sitting down and writing a quick not of attachment I shuved the letter in with the payslips GRRR. Thanks for the reply - hopefully they will send in back with the payslips? Will have to have a look for it. I just had one from them asking for payslips to proove Im still working and instead of sitting down and writing a quick not of attachment I shuved the letter in with the payslips GRRR. Thanks for the reply – hopefully they will send in back with the payslips?

]]> Comment on In Work Credit by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/in-work-credit/#comment-3523 Confessions of a single mum Tue, 25 Oct 2011 08:30:56 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=931#comment-3523 Have you looked at the contact details on the letters that would have been sent to you telling you what they were going to be paying you etc ? There will be contact details on there. Have you looked at the contact details on the letters that would have been sent to you telling you what they were going to be paying you etc ? There will be contact details on there.

]]> Comment on In Work Credit by Tracy http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/in-work-credit/#comment-3512 Tracy Mon, 24 Oct 2011 23:43:58 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=931#comment-3512 Hi been in touch with the jobcentre several times no luck been into the jobcentre in shrews and spoke one of the managers was given the tax credits no and they were no help? Was also given the inland rev no lol... no one seems to know nothing about it. Was also told today that it was called return to work credit....thats not true either as that is to do with long term disability and coming back to work from that??? Hi been in touch with the jobcentre several times no luck been into the jobcentre in shrews and spoke one of the managers was given the tax credits no and they were no help? Was also given the inland rev no lol… no one seems to know nothing about it. Was also told today that it was called return to work credit….thats not true either as that is to do with long term disability and coming back to work from that???

]]> Comment on In Work Credit by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/in-work-credit/#comment-3500 Confessions of a single mum Mon, 24 Oct 2011 17:03:59 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=931#comment-3500 Back to work credit is handled by your local Jobcentre. The best link I can find is the one to find your local jobcentre. I would phone them or call into them instead of using email to contact them. http://los.direct.gov.uk/default.aspx?type=1&lang=en Back to work credit is handled by your local Jobcentre. The best link I can find is the one to find your local jobcentre. I would phone them or call into them instead of using email to contact them. http://los.direct.gov.uk/default.aspx?type=1&lang=en

]]> Comment on In Work Credit by Tracy http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/benefits-single-mums/in-work-credit/#comment-3497 Tracy Mon, 24 Oct 2011 16:29:08 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=931#comment-3497 Hi I have been claiming the in work credit or back to work credit as it is apparently known as now for 5 months. I have had to change my bank account and wanted to contact them in regards to the new details. This is proven harder than extracting blood from a stone?! Please could you help me with a telephone no. Thanks Hi I have been claiming the in work credit or back to work credit as it is apparently known as now for 5 months. I have had to change my bank account and wanted to contact them in regards to the new details. This is proven harder than extracting blood from a stone?! Please could you help me with a telephone no.

Thanks

]]> Comment on Kids, The Internet, Mobile Phones and Tokens by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/kids-the-internet-mobile-phones-and-tokens/#comment-3257 Confessions of a single mum Tue, 18 Oct 2011 07:09:19 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2395#comment-3257 I was surprised by how much it worked for mine. Its something you can tail off when they have gone off the game etc. Good luck and let us know how it goes. I was surprised by how much it worked for mine. Its something you can tail off when they have gone off the game etc. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

]]> Comment on Living with M.E/CFS by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/living-with-m-ecfs/#comment-3255 Confessions of a single mum Tue, 18 Oct 2011 07:07:28 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3011#comment-3255 Ah thank you, the frustrating thing is that it can take so long. But I will get there ...eventually lol Ah thank you, the frustrating thing is that it can take so long. But I will get there …eventually lol

]]> Comment on Living with M.E/CFS by Jo Beaufoix http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/living-with-m-ecfs/#comment-3219 Jo Beaufoix Sun, 16 Oct 2011 15:43:04 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3011#comment-3219 It must be so hard. I hope your battery recharges soon too. Take care. It must be so hard. I hope your battery recharges soon too. Take care.

]]> Comment on Changes for Single Parents and Income Support by Stigmum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/changes-for-single-parents-and-income-support/#comment-3123 Stigmum Fri, 14 Oct 2011 13:37:00 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3280#comment-3123 I am going through this at the moment with my 9 year old. Disgusting that they are pushing the age down even further, what can I say. Any of your followers are free to rant over at mine for you are brilliant at the objectivity and me, well, i focus on how it feels. This was yesterday's rant as I went to sign on. http://stigmum.blogspot.com/2011/10/jobseekers-notebook.html. I take one view on it all, and it is that of being a parent who wants to find a balance. I am going through this at the moment with my 9 year old. Disgusting that they are pushing the age down even further, what can I say. Any of your followers are free to rant over at mine for you are brilliant at the objectivity and me, well, i focus on how it feels. This was yesterday’s rant as I went to sign on. http://stigmum.blogspot.com/2011/10/jobseekers-notebook.html. I take one view on it all, and it is that of being a parent who wants to find a balance.

]]> Comment on Letter to couple in supermarket by grumpygusty http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/letter-to-couple-in-supermarket/#comment-3026 grumpygusty Thu, 13 Oct 2011 13:23:10 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=176#comment-3026 Love it. Will think of this next time I see a similar couple in my supermarket & feel an urge to run my trolley over their feet! Love it. Will think of this next time I see a similar couple in my supermarket & feel an urge to run my trolley over their feet!

]]> Comment on My Pet Peeve by Adventures of a Working Mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-pet-peeve/#comment-2993 Adventures of a Working Mum Tue, 11 Oct 2011 19:44:10 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3086#comment-2993 I couldn't agree with you more!! I am an absolute stickler for manners and can't abide people (children or adults!) who don't use them. It costs nothing and makes a HUGE difference. x I couldn’t agree with you more!! I am an absolute stickler for manners and can’t abide people (children or adults!) who don’t use them. It costs nothing and makes a HUGE difference. x

]]> Comment on Living with M.E/CFS by Suzie http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/living-with-m-ecfs/#comment-2991 Suzie Tue, 11 Oct 2011 12:19:44 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3011#comment-2991 Hi..I too suffer with ME..I have a group on facebook if you want to join it... https://www.facebook.com/groups/285890721427059/...Im a Mum to 3 children..its nto easy with this illness but I have learnt to adjust and adapt and keep my activities low as to not drain the battery..I had Proffessor Pinching too..what an amazing man...will be greatky missed...Hopr you build your energy levels back up soon and feel better in yourself Sue x Hi..I too suffer with ME..I have a group on facebook if you want to join it… https://www.facebook.com/groups/285890721427059/…Im a Mum to 3 children..its nto easy with this illness but I have learnt to adjust and adapt and keep my activities low as to not drain the battery..I had Proffessor Pinching too..what an amazing man…will be greatky missed…Hopr you build your energy levels back up soon and feel better in yourself
Sue x

]]> Comment on Kids, The Internet, Mobile Phones and Tokens by Wendy http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/kids-the-internet-mobile-phones-and-tokens/#comment-2984 Wendy Tue, 11 Oct 2011 09:30:13 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2395#comment-2984 I think that's a really good idea. I have an 8 year old who also like computer games, and I limit his time on it because if he has more than half an hour on it it does seem to affect his behaviour - snappy/irritable for example. Think I implement this type of system myself if you don't mind - that way there'll be no moaning when it's time to switch off! :-) I think that’s a really good idea. I have an 8 year old who also like computer games, and I limit his time on it because if he has more than half an hour on it it does seem to affect his behaviour – snappy/irritable for example.
Think I implement this type of system myself if you don’t mind – that way
there’ll be no moaning when it’s time to switch off! :-)

]]> Comment on Childcare Changes for 2013 by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/childcare-changes-for-2013/#comment-2962 Confessions of a single mum Sun, 09 Oct 2011 09:46:21 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3090#comment-2962 Its hard I know. Have you spoken to the Lone Parent advisor in your local job centre. They can be a bit hit and miss but can print out different scenarios for you. Also check out the Turn 2 Us site which have a benefit section and can help you work out what your entitled to . http://www.turn2us.org.uk/benefits_search.aspx Its hard I know. Have you spoken to the Lone Parent advisor in your local job centre. They can be a bit hit and miss but can print out different scenarios for you. Also check out the Turn 2 Us site which have a benefit section and can help you work out what your entitled to . http://www.turn2us.org.uk/benefits_search.aspx

]]> Comment on Childcare Changes for 2013 by Aly http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/childcare-changes-for-2013/#comment-2961 Aly Sun, 09 Oct 2011 08:45:07 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3090#comment-2961 My self employment fell through during the summer holidays.I've worked from home for 6 years and last year I became a single mum.I'm finding it hard to establish what I amentitled whilst I'm looking fora job that fits around my youngest who's only 3 1/2. My self employment fell through during the summer holidays.I’ve worked from home for 6 years and last year I became a single mum.I’m finding it hard to establish what I amentitled whilst I’m looking fora job that fits around my youngest who’s only 3 1/2.

]]> Comment on Childcare Changes for 2013 by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/childcare-changes-for-2013/#comment-2936 Confessions of a single mum Fri, 07 Oct 2011 19:45:31 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3090#comment-2936 I was the same, childcare cost more than I earned constantly and I was in a good job. It was the deciding factor in going self employed. It was either struggle and work all day in an office or struggle and at least work hours that suited me better and didn't have to pay out for childcare. Luckily my two are older so do understand what shhh means. I was the same, childcare cost more than I earned constantly and I was in a good job. It was the deciding factor in going self employed. It was either struggle and work all day in an office or struggle and at least work hours that suited me better and didn’t have to pay out for childcare. Luckily my two are older so do understand what shhh means.

]]> Comment on Childcare Changes for 2013 by Alex http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/childcare-changes-for-2013/#comment-2935 Alex Fri, 07 Oct 2011 19:05:53 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3090#comment-2935 Claire currently works 2.5 days a week. This month we paid the childmnder more than she earnt. This isn't unusual by any stretch, even though the 4 year old is at school and the MiL looks after the littlest on Weds mornings. Don't think this will make much of a difference. Claire currently works 2.5 days a week. This month we paid the childmnder more than she earnt. This isn’t unusual by any stretch, even though the 4 year old is at school and the MiL looks after the littlest on Weds mornings.

Don’t think this will make much of a difference.

]]> Comment on Childcare Changes for 2013 by Stigmum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-money/childcare-changes-for-2013/#comment-2934 Stigmum Fri, 07 Oct 2011 13:37:56 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3090#comment-2934 Afford to go back to work? I cannot answer your question and with universal credit coming in will be less able than I am now. Thanks for the emial you sent me ages ago by the way. Unfortunately it went into my junk and when I said it wasn't junk, it was safe, it disappeared. So I never got to see how you did it, the work lark! Me, a theme of being fired without being told at the moment! Thanks also for writing these things about benefits for those who don't know. Afford to go back to work? I cannot answer your question and with universal credit coming in will be less able than I am now.
Thanks for the emial you sent me ages ago by the way. Unfortunately it went into my junk and when I said it wasn’t junk, it was safe, it disappeared. So I never got to see how you did it, the work lark! Me, a theme of being fired without being told at the moment!
Thanks also for writing these things about benefits for those who don’t know.

]]> Comment on My Pet Peeve by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-pet-peeve/#comment-2931 Confessions of a single mum Fri, 07 Oct 2011 09:51:02 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3086#comment-2931 Sometimes I think they don't even realise they are being rude, its just the only way the know. Sad really especially when manners don't cost anything but actually are priceless. Sometimes I think they don’t even realise they are being rude, its just the only way the know. Sad really especially when manners don’t cost anything but actually are priceless.

]]> Comment on My Pet Peeve by Corinne http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/my-pet-peeve/#comment-2930 Corinne Fri, 07 Oct 2011 09:29:28 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3086#comment-2930 I am completely with you on this one, I am quite traditional with my boys (well, at the moment my biggest boy) and manners. I expect them to hold doors open (for men and women), ask to leave the table, say please and thank you, oh lots of things. I can't abide poor manners and I get quite cross when I feel people have been rude. I am completely with you on this one, I am quite traditional with my boys (well, at the moment my biggest boy) and manners. I expect them to hold doors open (for men and women), ask to leave the table, say please and thank you, oh lots of things. I can’t abide poor manners and I get quite cross when I feel people have been rude.

]]> Comment on Just a Normal Week by Francie Elford http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/just-a-normal-week/#comment-2918 Francie Elford Tue, 04 Oct 2011 20:00:19 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3069#comment-2918 My first time here. Nice blog and super post. Well done. My first time here. Nice blog and super post. Well done.

]]> Comment on Just a Normal Week by notsupermum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/just-a-normal-week/#comment-2910 notsupermum Mon, 03 Oct 2011 14:33:26 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3069#comment-2910 I have exactly the same conversations going on at my house. I feel your pain x I have exactly the same conversations going on at my house. I feel your pain x

]]> Comment on Just a Normal Week by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/just-a-normal-week/#comment-2909 Confessions of a single mum Mon, 03 Oct 2011 09:27:16 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3069#comment-2909 I am so glad you have the same as it means I am not going mad...well madder lol I am so glad you have the same as it means I am not going mad…well madder lol

]]> Comment on Just a Normal Week by susan http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/just-a-normal-week/#comment-2908 susan Mon, 03 Oct 2011 09:23:04 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3069#comment-2908 oh so you've been at my place this week too then:) I go through phases of banning glasses - sipper bottle each only for the whole day, especially in summer. One day I washed 18 glasses (I kid you not) and the children had only been in the house 3 hours. grrrr.... when does it end? Well, I'm thinking maybe never, becuase although my glass is always put in the sink...there always seems to be an extra one... oh so you’ve been at my place this week too then:)

I go through phases of banning glasses – sipper bottle each only for the whole day, especially in summer. One day I washed 18 glasses (I kid you not) and the children had only been in the house 3 hours. grrrr….

when does it end? Well, I’m thinking maybe never, becuase although my glass is always put in the sink…there always seems to be an extra one…

]]> Comment on 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/15-things-learnt-raising-girl/#comment-2905 Confessions of a single mum Sun, 02 Oct 2011 20:19:20 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3025#comment-2905 I cant wait till I am old and carted round for Sunday lunch, I will sit their and tell my grandchildren lots of embarrassing stories about their mother lol I cant wait till I am old and carted round for Sunday lunch, I will sit their and tell my grandchildren lots of embarrassing stories about their mother lol

]]> Comment on 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/15-things-learnt-raising-girl/#comment-2904 Confessions of a single mum Sun, 02 Oct 2011 20:18:05 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3025#comment-2904 I am probably guilty of all of them but I wont tell her that lol I am probably guilty of all of them but I wont tell her that lol

]]> Comment on 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/15-things-learnt-raising-girl/#comment-2903 Confessions of a single mum Sun, 02 Oct 2011 20:17:34 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3025#comment-2903 It's scary how quick they do grow up these days. I so wish I had a pause button, though a mute button would also be good sometimes. It’s scary how quick they do grow up these days. I so wish I had a pause button, though a mute button would also be good sometimes.

]]> Comment on 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl by divasupermum antoinette http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/15-things-learnt-raising-girl/#comment-2902 divasupermum antoinette Sun, 02 Oct 2011 19:38:25 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3025#comment-2902 really great, girls do grow up so soon, i have three teens myself, and time just flies by really great, girls do grow up so soon, i have three teens myself, and time just flies by

]]> Comment on 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl by mammasaver http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/15-things-learnt-raising-girl/#comment-2901 mammasaver Sun, 02 Oct 2011 19:32:07 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3025#comment-2901 I love it! Your post weirdly reminds me of being a teenager! I was guilty of a lot of comment number 2s as a youngling! I love it! Your post weirdly reminds me of being a teenager! I was guilty of a lot of comment number 2s as a youngling!

]]> Comment on 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl by notsupermum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/15-things-learnt-raising-girl/#comment-2892 notsupermum Sat, 01 Oct 2011 03:32:22 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3025#comment-2892 All very true, and I agree with number 12 about not wishing their lives away. They grow up so fast, and soon we will look back and laugh at the teenage years (I hope!) All very true, and I agree with number 12 about not wishing their lives away. They grow up so fast, and soon we will look back and laugh at the teenage years (I hope!)

]]> Comment on 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl by Lorraine from The Party Times http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/15-things-learnt-raising-girl/#comment-2888 Lorraine from The Party Times Fri, 30 Sep 2011 20:40:13 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=3025#comment-2888 Really enjoyed this post - very comical and yet very true! Really enjoyed this post – very comical and yet very true!

]]> Comment on Meeting my birth father for the first time by Jimmy http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/meeting-my-birth-father-for-the-first-time/#comment-2884 Jimmy Thu, 29 Sep 2011 09:14:21 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2875#comment-2884 Awesome Meeting my birth father for the first time incredible. I will spread the word about your site Keep up the good content, Guest, very interesting. Awesome Meeting my birth father for the first time incredible. I will spread the word about your site Keep up the good content, Guest, very interesting.

]]> Comment on Meeting my birth mother for the first time by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/meeting-my-birth-mother-for-the-first-time/#comment-2723 Confessions of a single mum Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:53:47 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2865#comment-2723 oh how exciting and nerve raking all rolled into one. I was lucky I had a friend with me which helped my nerves no end . I also went not expecting anything then I wouldn't be disappointed which way it went. I hope it goes really well and please do pop back and let em know how it went. oh how exciting and nerve raking all rolled into one. I was lucky I had a friend with me which helped my nerves no end . I also went not expecting anything then I wouldn’t be disappointed which way it went. I hope it goes really well and please do pop back and let em know how it went.

]]> Comment on Meeting my birth mother for the first time by Claire http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/meeting-my-birth-mother-for-the-first-time/#comment-2710 Claire Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:16:08 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2865#comment-2710 I am meeting my birth mother for the first time this Saturday. I am 39 years old and its taken me all these years to pluck up the courage and make this bold move. The nerves are really starting to kick in now, and reading your story was lovely, and I can totally relate to a lot of what you said......I am glad its worked out for you..xx I am meeting my birth mother for the first time this Saturday.
I am 39 years old and its taken me all these years to pluck up the courage and make this bold move.
The nerves are really starting to kick in now, and reading your story was lovely, and I can totally relate to a lot of what you said……I am glad its worked out for you..xx

]]> Comment on Should Kids Do Chores? by susan http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/should-kids-do-chores/#comment-2510 susan Sat, 10 Sep 2011 21:18:49 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2935#comment-2510 yes and no. I remember my own mum saying that once i was an adult there would be plenty of time for me to be doing cooking/cleaning etc and so i should enjoy not having that pressure whilst i lived with her. i still did a few things but overall she had jurisdiction in the house. my kids are small (8 and 5) and so there chores are limited but they are expected to pick up after themselves. unfortunately in this age of consumerism and $2 shops, they see every chore as an opportunity to make money to spend on more plastic stuff. I agree that working from home is a double edged sword. sometimes i think it would be less stressful to be out 10 hours a day - there'd certainly be less mess to clean up too! yes and no. I remember my own mum saying that once i was an adult there would be plenty of time for me to be doing cooking/cleaning etc and so i should enjoy not having that pressure whilst i lived with her. i still did a few things but overall she had jurisdiction in the house. my kids are small (8 and 5) and so there chores are limited but they are expected to pick up after themselves.
unfortunately in this age of consumerism and $2 shops, they see every chore as an opportunity to make money to spend on more plastic stuff.
I agree that working from home is a double edged sword. sometimes i think it would be less stressful to be out 10 hours a day – there’d certainly be less mess to clean up too!

]]> Comment on Five Stages of Grief by Rachel http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-dating/five-stages-of-grief/#comment-2438 Rachel Mon, 29 Aug 2011 16:35:21 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=276#comment-2438 Hiya, just wanna say. Accidently stubbled upon your blog. Iv never felt so alone in my current situation was at low time low. You are a pure inspiration and soul saver your frank honest advice is breath takin fresh and im currently scourin every inch of you site thank you Hiya, just wanna say. Accidently stubbled upon your blog. Iv never felt so alone in my current situation was at low time low. You are a pure inspiration and soul saver your frank honest advice is breath takin fresh and im currently scourin every inch of you site thank you

]]> Comment on Break Up Etiquette- Dumpee by rachel http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-and-dating/break-up-etiquette-dumpee/#comment-2437 rachel Mon, 29 Aug 2011 16:27:58 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?page_id=332#comment-2437 Can i just say ugh post has made my day thank you for frank honestl advice yes iv just been dumped but your right im ok Can i just say ugh post has made my day thank you for frank honestl advice yes iv just been dumped but your right im ok

]]> Comment on Summer Holidays Nearly Over by susan http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/single-mum-ramblings/summer-holidays-nearly-over/#comment-2435 susan Mon, 29 Aug 2011 09:49:04 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2900#comment-2435 the best laid plans and all that! I bet if you asked the kids though, they would say they had the best summer EVER! (and they probably said it last year too...) the best laid plans and all that!

I bet if you asked the kids though, they would say they had the best summer EVER! (and they probably said it last year too…)

]]> Comment on Adoption from my sisters view. by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/adoption-from-my-sisters-view/#comment-2409 Confessions of a single mum Sat, 27 Aug 2011 20:04:34 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2889#comment-2409 ahh thank you. ahh thank you.

]]> Comment on Adoption from my sisters view. by Helen P http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/adoption-from-my-sisters-view/#comment-2408 Helen P Sat, 27 Aug 2011 20:03:32 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2889#comment-2408 These adoption posts are absolutely fascinating and giving me lots of food for thought about my own situation! Thank you so much to you and also your sister for sharing them. These adoption posts are absolutely fascinating and giving me lots of food for thought about my own situation! Thank you so much to you and also your sister for sharing them.

]]> Comment on Meeting my birth mother for the first time by Confessions of a single mum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/meeting-my-birth-mother-for-the-first-time/#comment-2396 Confessions of a single mum Fri, 26 Aug 2011 16:44:47 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2865#comment-2396 ahh thank you *passes tissue* ahh thank you *passes tissue*

]]> Comment on Meeting my birth mother for the first time by Stigmum http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/meeting-my-birth-mother-for-the-first-time/#comment-2395 Stigmum Fri, 26 Aug 2011 15:17:38 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2865#comment-2395 I'm so happy you have a bond with your half sister and that you met your birth family. Your post made me cry, you are very brave I’m so happy you have a bond with your half sister and that you met your birth family. Your post made me cry, you are very brave

]]> Comment on Meeting my birth father for the first time by corinne http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/latest-posts/meeting-my-birth-father-for-the-first-time/#comment-2370 corinne Wed, 24 Aug 2011 12:34:40 +0000 http://www.confessionsofasinglemum.co.uk/?p=2875#comment-2370 I'm loving reading your story, thank you so much. This completely reminds me of how I felt meeting my half brother who was adopted by his step-father. We found each other as adults. x I’m loving reading your story, thank you so much. This completely reminds me of how I felt meeting my half brother who was adopted by his step-father. We found each other as adults. x

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