If you look up how to find a man on the internet, you will get a load of advice telling you to steer clear of the men who are distant, angry, have baggage, who can’t love, who use women, and the commitment phobic. They tell you that you don’t want any of those. The problem with this is that its presuming men are either good or bad. That a man can only be one or the other. But what is bad for one person might actually be good to another. Any person in a bad relationship is likely to behave badly. So I reckon it should be instead of don’t look for a good man, it should be look for a man who is good for you.

Now I’m not saying that men are all saints. There are still bad characters out there. The liars, cheats, criminals, sadists and thieves of the world should be steered clear of.

Seeking perfection is an impossible task and should only be done by those who are perfect themselves. I hate to shock you but we women are not perfect. We’ve done our share of dumping. We’ve all been accused of being cruel, bossy, cold, and bored and many more. These things happen when we pair up wrongly, with those we are not compatible with.