Most when on their search for a new partner stipulate no baggage. Well I hate to break it to you but everyone has baggage. Be it from past problems with family, friends or ex partners. If someone claims they are unscathed then they are living in cuckoo land. The real question is not if they have baggage but how they handle their baggage.

If someone is burdened by their baggage then this doesn’t bode well.

If they are obsessed and all they do is talk about how cruel and evil someone once was to them, this too doesn’t bode well.

If they are obsessed about an attractive unobtainable ex partner then this too isn’t a good sign.

These sorts of people are not carrying their baggage, they plainly flat on their back with the baggage firmly on top of them. They are still trapped in their past.

Then there are those who can’t even open their baggage. They never talk about it and deny it’s even there. They are stuck in denial and probably festering sore spots, violent emotions of hurt and rage from disasters in their past.

At some point in your new relationship, your baggage will get talked about. How they handle your baggage is also relevant. If they listen and understand then brilliant but if they show signs of not being able to handle your baggage then you should proceed with caution.

Remember its not if they have baggage but how they handle their baggage.