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Wish List pitfalls

Submitted by Confessions of a single mum on May 15, 2009 – 12:35 pmNo Comment

Your wish list regarding men might be the thing that’s the problem. It might be attracting all the Mr Wrongs. If I was asked what my wish list for the ideal man is then I might answer with honest, romantic and trusting. But these things describe a relationship not an individual. If I put out an advert for a man who is honest, romantic and trusting there would be hundreds of men who would say they are all those things.

 

Honest – Does anyone openly admit to being dishonest? If you were a man would say sorry I am a game player so I don’t think were compatible?

 

Trusting – Announcing you want honesty (and trust) doesn’t mean you will get it. There are two types of men, the ones who try not to be dishonest and those who get a kick from being dishonest. And by saying you are searching for these things tend to bring out of the wood work the dishonest men. How? Well they will read it as you been hurt and fooled in the past so must be easily fooled. They can tell you what you want to hear but will go on to be all the things you don’t want. The honest man will admit to his faults. So don’t rule out the men who bravely admit their faults as they are actually being honest.

 

Romantic – Men see romance differently then women. To a women romance is about how he feels about you when he isn’t with you. That he misses you and thinks of you so shows you small ways. Notes in unexpected places or flowers for no reason. Men see romance as a grand gesture when it’s expected when they are with you. They think one offs all guns blazing with a meal and flowers and candle light is romance as to them it is. So if a man says he is romantic it’s probably not the romance as we think of it.  

 

So readdress your wish list. Throw out the generic words. Get down to what would make him different to other men. What makes him Mr Right for you and not another woman?

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