A helicopter parent is a mum or dad who over-worries about their kids. Worrying is a hazard of being a parent, but too much is unhealthy. The kids hate it and it hinders you from enjoying life away from being a mum. Like an addiction, though, you can’t click your fingers and stop. To prevent the blades from spinning, you have to try and make an effort to stop being overprotective. For those that don’t know how there are plenty of ways to get the job done. The advice below, however, is a selection of the most effective techniques.
Don’t Prevent “Regular” Risks
Mums are super protective and never want their kids to be in pain or have a nasty accident. But, being a child is about falling down and getting back up again. It’s literally how children around the world learn how to walk. There is no way you can shield them from everything, which is why you shouldn’t try. Great parents focus on the dangerous and significant risks, such as playing with electrical items or surfing the Web unprotected. For things like untied shoelaces, you should give them a gentle reminder. Otherwise, there is a risk of smothering your kids.
Elsa from Frozen said it best when she sang the smash hit “Let It Go.” The kids won’t always be in earshot, especially as they grow up. Teenagers, for example, love to go out into the world with their friends and explore. Firstly, letting them do that is essential because it enables them to develop independence. People who lack this quality in later life might struggle to take care of themselves. Secondly, it’s vital that you don’t check up on them all of the time as it ruins their fun and gets in the way of your life. A simple text message is a simple solution to let them be kids and to ease the worrying.
Look To The Future, Not The Present
Taking care of them now is part of the job, but so is protecting them in the future. Just because they will be adults doesn’t mean they don’t need their parents. It also doesn’t suggest that your job is over when they hit 21. Adults need advice and help, too, and you are the perfect solution. There are plenty of ways to do it, from buying a prepaid plan from the co-op funerals service to starting a savings account for university fees. The trick is to think about what they will need and how you can give it to them.
Telling kids they are the “funny one” or the “lazy one” encourages them to believe the stereotype. Of course, the chances of them turning into this person are high because they don’t see any other option. You will also think the prophecy is true and cater to their needs as a result, which means your life will revolve around the kids. As a rule, try to avoid labels so that they can choose their path and you can parent accordingly.
Calling all helicopter parents, now is the time to switch off the engine, and these tips will help.