This week Donna is talking about two things, what we want in a date and the very fragile subject of financial differences. Of course we want someone who is well mannered, cooking skills and house trained. We wouldn’t ask for someone who can’t cook, doesn’t know what a saucepan is and wears the same pair of socks for 7 days. Keep in mind that we all perceive things differently. Ask my kids and they would say I am an ok cook and over tidy. I think I am better than ok in the kitchen and not tidy enough. A man’s view of being house trained may just be he knows what day the rubbish is put out, another man’s idea might be that he can cook a 4 course meal whilst completely cleaning the kitchen.
But online dating isn’t just about what you want; it’s how you portray yourself too. We would hardly list all our own faults in our profiles. If you say you taught Delia Smith everything she knows would that be seen as too much competition for the want to be cooks or easy route out for those who can only master a tin opener.
A financial difference, to me is one of the hard ones. I have no interest in money and put off more by those who have a lot and especially those who tell me they have a lot. But everyone is different, to some it is important you’re on the same level. This is all part of the wonderful things that makes us all different and unique. How boring would it be if everyone was the same? I am firm believer that differences make things interesting. There are limits of course and if the differences are too big or one person is passionate about something and there is no room for compromise then it would be less likely to be successful.
When you try online dating it can really make you stop and think about yourself. Answering all the questions on eHarmony you might surprise yourself as your realise the things that are really important to you and the things that really don’t matter that much