Confessions of a Single Mum

I am Maxlyn a life coach and I have been a single mum for nearly eight years now. I have endured all the high’s and low’s of being a single mum. I can honestly say the experience has been a real eye opener. I am a life coach that not only helps people close the gaps in their life but also one who understands that it is normal to face problems. I have been there and continue to meet more challenges in my life but I have only two choices, let life hammer me or I hammer life!

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This month we will examine the need to change our life, our daily routine, decisions, or anything we choose to change. From time to time it is essential to re-examine our lives. You may consider it as an update of where you are, why you are there and where you want to be.

Change is whatever it is you want. You may want to change endless struggles for money into prosperity, you may want to be somebody and do something great, you may want to have a man in your life or even want to take a holiday overseas rather than butlins.

How can you change? You change yourself first. Change the way you think and your attitude to life. I can show you the way but it depends on you to take action. Change begins with small steps towards the art of an adventure. If the change you choose does not inspire you then don’t do it. Change promises results.

Change is important in life. It is the renewal of anything that gives us a reason. A reason to smile, try, expect and to be. You may choose to move around your furniture every six months or even walk a different route home. Go anywhere, see anything and try everything. The more you discover, the more you change. It gives you a renewed mind frame. As the saying goes, a change is as good as a rest.

Everything we do gets redone at the end of the day. You wash the dishes and the sink is full by the end of the day, Empty the laundry basket and its half full by the time you go to bed. No one rewards you for what you do but the rewards are long-term. Yes life is a process but the things that matter most are invisible.

It is the input we give our children that will tell a story years to come. Children are our future and by investing time in them, we are playing part in filling in the future puzzle. Our Internal being contributes to our future. It is the things that we don’t see that count most. Faith, hope and love are emotions. Invest them in your children more than you buy them toys.

To be able to give, you must have. You can’t give what you do not have! Invest time in yourself. Listen to the inner you. Have values and principles. Do not conform to society norms. Believe in yourself and follow your own path. It is the only way to live a full life.

Who are you? Your parents gave you a name when you were born, people may have given you nick names, the society calls you a single mum too. These are not your names, but you will continue to be labelled until you put a sticker on yourself saying otherwise.

I was always referred to as single mum until I changed and became a life coach. I still am a single mum but no one remembers that! I am a life coach! What the society doesn’t know is that some of us are single by choice. It may have not been a choice for you but you have lived. You picked up the pieces and moved on. You are still breathing, eating and watching the kids grow. Now who is missing out?

I know a man who doesn’t have one hand. He applied for countless jobs with no success. I know what you are thinking, equal opportunity but really? On paper yes without a doubt. However, he did not give up. He chose a label for himself. A currier! He opened his own company and now works seven days a week. Everybody loves him for his ‘I will’ attitude.

You know your capabilities more than anybody can begin to figure out. You might need to polish a few things but DO IT. What pushed me most was when my son came home one day and asked. “Mum, what do you do?” my response was what do you mean? “My homework is to write about my mum’s or dad’s job”. I nearly had a seizure! There was no dad to write about, just me! I imagined all those doctors and lawyers who were doing the same homework with their kids with pleasure. I had pressure alright but I made my fulltime mum job make teachers want to quit and stay at home with their kids!

Although I made the homework very interesting, my main concern was the role model I being. I was an example to my kids that staying at home was good enough. I promised myself from that day that my kids would grow to look up to me. I decided to take small steps to achieve my goal.

Every day adds up to another and becomes measureable. Changing just one thing in your daily routine will give you great results. Every step towards the finishing line counts. Do not overwhelm your life. You are the designer. Design only the beauty you wish to see and Make it happen slowly but surely and use your skills to become whatever it is you want to be.

If you do not nominate yourself nobody else will. There is more to you than your CV. Those who are only concerned about the here and now have no vision. Life’s comfort is the ability to celebrate everything, learn from anything, feel your feelings and live your part. It’s time to bring out the treasure in you and change for the better.

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