Are All Siblings Enemies?
My kids just don’t seem to get the brother sister love thingy. When I was growing up it did bother me a bit that I didn’t have any brother or sisters but then I probably was looking at it all through rose tinted specs. But it made me determined that any children I did have wouldn’t be only children. Hence I have a 13 year old boy currently winding his older 15 year old sister up. She is retaliating with shouting (loud enough for me to hear of course) for him to stop being so annoying, or to shut up or move out the way. It’s when it’s followed by silence I know one of them has dealt a hefty blow and I wait to hear who is complaining the most to work out who did what.
Is it in built that as kid’s brothers and sisters don’t get on? Is it the case that the more they hate each other as kids the better they get on when they are older? I ask in vain clutching at straws.
I really hope that when they are older they realise I really wasn’t being mean by having a second child or by having the first child to annoy the second. I want them to get on, be there for each other. To chat and support each other, not try to half murder each other or to make such an atmosphere that a carving knife would have trouble slicing through it.
Did you get on with your siblings when younger? Are you friends with them now? Do you wish you were an only child or maybe you’re an only child wishing the same for your children? Let me know.