Comments on: Coping with Christmas on your own as a Single Mum

By: linda

linda — Mon, 22 Nov 2010 03:34:13 +0000

Thanks. Just feeling a bit sorry for myself. This will be my first christmas as a single parent, altho if I am honest i have might of well of been for the last 12 years. Do I sound bitter? So this year it is just me and the kids, the ex is off to his family for the whole of the christmas period, perhaps with the latest squeeze in tow, without so much as a backward glance for his kids. So the pressure is on me to make it good for them. At least i won’t have to put up with him sitting there, whilst i run around like the village idiot. So there are positives in everything I suppose. Anyway thanks for your site, its kind of nice knowing that there are people in a similar situation. I shall definately be logging back on.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 14 Nov 2010 18:58:11 +0000

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By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Sat, 30 Oct 2010 09:44:25 +0000

My children toddle off to visit their father’s side of the family every Christmas Day. The first year, I was very lonely…had a sinus infection…and watched a Law & Order television marathon in the dark all day. Since then, Christmas afternoon has become one of my favorite moments of the entire holiday season. The kids are gone, so I can tidy up a bit. I usually pick up some Chinese food (not always my first choice, but, they’re open!) and just spend the afternoon in a quiet way.

By: Amy

Amy — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 10:24:53 +0000

I know how you feel, me and my ex split up 3 years ago and the first xmas I had the kids and was at my mums, I was very, very sad but put on a fake happy face for the sake of the kids and for family (told them everything was fine!) I had actually woken up that morning with a pain in my chest.
The following year my ex had the kids from xmas eve to new years eve (daytime) so I went to my friends for a week and was just drunk the whole time, I did have a good time actually and decided that was how I would spend my christmases but of course I cant do that to my children. this year, however, it is my turn to have them and I am dreading it. I dont know if it gets better every year but I havent had a boyfriend since I split up with my ex so it wasnt like I had someone special to share christmas with although just my three children should be enough.
I just wish I personally knew people that were in my position then maybe if we lived close enough we could spend Xmas evening together! x

By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 01 Oct 2010 00:31:36 +0000

I have never been keen on christmas, but I always make an effort for the sake of my daughter, to make sure she enjoys it. We are approaching her 3rd christmas this year, and I’m dreading spending yet another christmas on my mine. While other people cuddle up with their loved ones watching all the christmas movies and being all romantic, I’ll be on my own. Of course during the day I’ll be going around visiting parents and sisters, watching my daughter open her presents, it’ll be the evening when the loneliness kicks in.
I’m glad I’m not the only one who dreads christmas alone, atleast I know i’m not the only one.
x

By: Jules

Jules — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 11:24:36 +0000

Aww Wendy thats so mean! Your poor son

What a nasty piece of work- is she still about?

By: wendy

wendy — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 22:11:25 +0000

Just a thought but do your kids have to be together at Xmas? Could you not spend a lovely day with daughter, both in jimjams and have one major girly day? Bet she would love it. She could see other family on boxing day. As I said, just a thought, not trying to interfere.

By: wendy

wendy — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 17:59:43 +0000

I would love xmas on my own but you have to be able to trust your ex in order to do this. I now insist on having my kids at Xmas as 2 yrs ago my ex’s g/friend thought it hilarious to buy my son, then 11, a barbie doll!! The evil bag wrecked my sons Xmas and he is stll not over the embarassment and humiliation.

By: Anita

Anita — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 13:08:27 +0000

I spent my first Christmas as a single Mum at home alone. I chose to send the boy off to his Granny’s with his Daddy, he would have the Aunties, Uncles and his Daddy’s cousins to make a fuss and I would have mt first child free break. I went to the pub on Christmas Eve with a friend, spent Christmas morning painting my bedroom and cleaning the kitchen, cleaned up to join friends for a traditional lunch, then home in the evening to my clean tidy house.

This year is Daddy’s turn, but he can’t be bothered, Granny’s in a home so the usual family gathering at hers won’t be happening. Actually I find it hard to have a jovial fun Christmas with just me, the boy and the cat, seems a very small gathering. I’m sure we’ll see friends though and will make it known that we are open for callers with the champagne on ice and mulled wine at the ready.

By: Jules

Jules — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 12:04:40 +0000

Sniff!
What a brave blog post.

I am not sure I could be as unselfish as you.

Mind I did love
“Although nice to have a drink, donâ€™t drink too much if there is any hint it will make you sad. Slurring Merry Christmas sarcastically at the TV with bottle in hand really isnâ€™t that sophisticated.”
Very funny!

At the moment (3 years into seperate lives, but 4th Christmas since the infedelity) I am still holding with the line of ‘DS and I are still where we always were. YOU are the one who has gone, so sorry but YOU are the one who misses out.’
That said I have let him have DS for 1 Christmas morning, but it wore the poor lad out so badly I said no more

Love to hear how other single mums do Christmas too