Just because you’re a single parent and have found yourself suddenly single, it doesn’t mean that you will be on your own for the rest of your life or have to rule out finding love again. You might be a bit hesitant and this is perfectly natural. But at some point, you will have to find your confidence and self-esteem so you can get back out there. There is only so many months you can sanely talk to only children, you will want an adult conversation that doesn’t include Thomas the tank engine or the latest pop sensation being mentioned.
Many single parents haven’t dated for a very long time so you might feel reluctant to put yourself in a position of potential rejection. Well, reaction is a normal part of dating and not too personal. After all, you won’t just launch yourself at the first person to show interest in you. You might not like them so it might be you doing the rejecting.
Dragging your past into a new relationship isn’t healthy and a sign that you’re not completely over the past. If you are finding it hard to not live in the past then you might benefit from some counselling to help you move on.
It’s also important to date for the right reasons and not just date for emotional revenge or with the illusion that a new romantic partner will somehow fix what is broken in your day to day life. You should want to be with them for all the right reasons not just because it means an extra pair of hands around the house or financial help.
Remember too that you come as a complete package. It’s important that your romantic interest likes children, understands they are not there to discipline your children and they should be mature enough to understand the demands as a parent you will have to attend to without them getting jealous of your time with your children.
Don’t introduce new romances to the children till you’re certain it has long term potential. Introducing many romances into the children’s lives will create confusion and insecurity and sometimes resentment.
Lastly go slowly. A new person who is worth having will understand you need for going slowly.