I think I may have done something that’s considered odd. When I divorced, 10 years ago, I kept my married name. I didn’t ‘just forget ‘to change it back to my maiden name as I even went to my in-laws and asked if they minded if I kept the surname. They thanked me for asking and didn’t object at all.
I can’t remember if I had any other reasons and if I did they couldn’t have been that important for me to have now forgotten them, but my main reason was I wanted some normality and consistency for the children. It was bad enough that they were going through a divorce and at the time my daughter was worried I would have a different surname to her. When your only 4 these things are very important.
Fast forward to today and I am still using the same surname. I don’t see any reason to change it now but it’s made me wonder was it odd that I kept the surname? Do most women revert back to maiden names on divorce when children are involved?
I did ask the children if it was odd and they looked at me oddly and said no as if it were perfectly normal.
So did/would you change your surname on divorce?