To celebrate my daughters 15th birthday I have been thinking about the things I have learned. 1-It’s very annoying when she borrows something of mine and it looks ten times better on her. 2-They change their minds a lot, quickly and without telling anyone. Mine loves fennel. I personally can’t stand it. Dutifully as a mother, I made space in my veg patch and lovingly grew some fennel for ... Read More about 15 Things I have Learnt on Raising a Girl
15 years ago I was very uncomfortably waddling around a hospital ward. Being 8 ½ months pregnant with pre-eclampsia the only thing I could do was waddle and wait. I had indeed waddled to my routine anti-natal class a week earlier to give in my routine sample. I then watched my midwife transform from her normal quiet calm self into a whirlwind organising ambulances and a hospital bed. Safe to say ... Read More about 15 Years Ago Today …
The whole beauty thing has never come easily to me. My mother was of the ‘lippy and blue eye shadow’ era – need a say more? Tips and hints weren’t really passed on; instead, I have had to learn about beauty as I went. So here are the things that I wished I learnt a long time ago. It’s a myth that having every expensive potion makes you beautiful – It just makes you poorer and the ... Read More about If I Knew This 30 Years Ago
When I worked in an office full time, the kids and I could be out of the house about 10 hours each day 5 days a week. So it was never a question if the kids should do housework, for my own sanity they had to. I am not talking anything along the lines of child slave labour, contra to my children’s belief, but they both had to help with things they could manage. Now that I work from home I have ... Read More about Should Kids Do Chores?
With one week left of the long summer holidays, did you manage to do all the things you hoped for? I haven't managed any of the things I hoped I would. I hoped for long summer days in the garden that resulted in impromptu bbq’s that lasted till the stars were out. It has rained and the days it didn’t rain it was either too windy or the kids had made use of the only sunny day and ran off into ... Read More about Summer Holidays Nearly Over
When I was writing the posts about my adoption I did let my sister know first. She replied with full support and that it was a good idea. I tentatively asked if she would like to share how she felt about finding out she had an older sister that had been adopted. Her is her story... I was brought up with both my biological parents and 2 brothers (one older and one younger), but even from an ... Read More about Adoption from my sisters view.
It can be hard to explain to someone who has grown up in a family that looks like them, what it really is like to grow up not looking like anyone. It’s probably quite insignificant to most and not something you normally think about, but it’s probably the one thing that affected me the most. Not while I was growing up, it affected me when I met someone I looked like. My birth mum took longer ... Read More about Meeting my birth mother for the first time
When the counselling lady sent her letters out she was very ambiguous in her wording, but both my grandmothers knew straight away what and who the letters were about. They passed them on straight away and within days my birth father wrote back. A few weeks later my birth mother replied too. Both responses were positive and letters soon started dashing back and forth. ... Read More about Meeting my birth father for the first time
I never had a burning desire to find my roots. I had never felt something was missing in my life. I wasn’t bitter about being put up for adoption or wanted answers to why. My adoptive parents had brought me up to never judge, presume or resent. I am one of those awful people that in a middle of a crisis, points out all the positives of the situation, sees both sides of the story and is in general ... Read More about Finding My Birth Parents
Being asked what it’s like to know I am adopted was probably the question I was asked the most as a kid. Some children are told they are adopted when they are older. Some grow up never knowing. I was brought up being told I was special as I was chosen. Sounds like something out of a superhero story. But trust me I have no special powers like being able to shoot red lasers from my eyes and yes I ... Read More about What’s it like to grow up knowing your adopted
If there is one thing I hate about school holidays it’s the feeding them bit. Yes I know it’s my parental duty to keep them alive and food is one of the important ones but give me a break. At least when they are at school there are only so many hours that they are home to ask for food. School holidays they always seem extra hungry and trying to fill them up is just a relentless task. ... Read More about My School Holiday Pet Hate
It’s a sad but also happy day in our house, actually garden, today. Ten years ago, when I was still married, we bought our son a slide. Not any old slide but one that would last awhile. Little did I realise that many years later I would be trying to convince my son it was time the slide moved on. This week the slide is going and it has been a long process to convince him he no longer needed a huge ... Read More about The Big Blue Slide