Unless you have been blessed with a money tree or managed to climb the career ladder and still clinging on in there, as a single parent you will probably be on benefits. You also could be on them for a long time too. In reality the Government, anyone and everyone, oh and you probably don’t want to be on them. But we live in an age that it costs more to live than the average person can earn so until someone does something about that bit you might have to get used to it. It won’t be pretty. It’s not an easy ride and the media falsely portray that it’s all lots of money and big TV screens. There is a stigma attached to it and at some point, you will get it thrown in your face.
Advice – stick you big girl pants ( or boxers) on, hold your head up and remember your doing something marvelous. Failing that win the lottery.
There is knackered then there is really knackered. A few more steps on from that is where you will be as a single parent. It’s knackering enough when there is two of you but when there is just one adult doing the housework, homework helping, tea cooking and taxi servicing oh and working too….it’s exhausting.
Advice – Prioritize. Dust and hoovering will still be there tomorrow. They and you too will survive on beans on toast. Don’t fight every battle just the ones really important to you.
It’s you who is divorced or separated. It’s you who fell out of love or battling the breakup. Not the children. They still think the sun shines out of every hole of your ex and worships the ground they walk on. Be the adult and don’t slate or put down your ex in front of or to your children.
Advice – You can call your ex all the names under the sun in your head but that’s where it needs to stay.