Oh heck, this will be interesting. Not a blog post I ever thought I was going to ever have to write since I thought I had found Mr. Forever but as it turns out I wasn’t his Mrs. Forever. Hey ho as they say, onwards and upwards and grab your best bra and stilettos as we go. Now I am not saying I am leaping into this Dating in Your 40’s lark but I do kinda need to know what to expect as I have a lot of catching up to do.
Back in my last dating spree, it was all perk boobs, no waists, and high heels. One innocent smile, a flutter of the eyelashes and poof date sorted. Now my arsenal of tools is rather, well let’s just go with pathetic. Less perk, more waist and want on earth is a high heel? If you have read my running posts you may have read the weight is practically falling off so waists are not an issue. My infamous Buddha bellies are now gone and there is even a hint of a hip bone when one is horizontal so there is hope for me yet.
But dynamics have also changed. I don’t need babysitters anymore so I have freedom. I am apparently wiser and more grounded ( sniggers ). You can check people out easier with the age of social media and there’s no more coffee but Netflix instead. Ok, even I am cringing at the thought.
So what do I have to look forward to?
Well, apparently men in their 40’s are confident and self-assured, they know what is important to them and what they want in a relationship and will be open about it.
They are seasoned and like fine wine improves with age.
They aren’t all looking for a trophy wife. – We’ll there is light at the end of the tunnel for me then.
And what do I have to look out for? Let’s get realistic here.
There isn’t the whole – do you ever want children thing. You know when you didn’t know yourself if you wanted to be a parent let alone be with someone who did or didn’t want children. Or the but do I actually want children with you thing either. All that is, generally, off the table with no biological clock ticking in the background.
Bodies are different. They are less forgiving as they start running away with time. But an ideal time to start looking after yourself if you have neglected your health a bit.
Women reach their sexual peak in their 40’s ( hello! well that got my attention ) They are more confident and liberated than when they were in their youths.
Attitudes, when you are in your 40’s, are different than the muddled confused thoughts of your youth. You know time doesn’t stand still and its now or never. You have also lived life. You have won and you have lost. You have made friends and they them go the they advent been supportive. You can manage lives ups and downs.
Expectations are different too. Instead of suitable partners looking for car status and going on looks its more about if people are kind, considerate and humour. You have put away the list of perfect characteristics that you are looking for a in a date.
I have since written a more in-depth post about Dating for Single Parents if you would like to read more.
Ok well, this all sounds promising. You ready for the ride reader? It’s going to be fun I think