Few Quick helps
- Feel the emotions; accept you got to go through them.
- Do things you couldn’t or didn’t do before. I actually like the colour pink but my partner hated it. So now I smile every time I wear pink because it is something I wouldn’t do before.
- Use the time to learn about yourself, what do you actually want from a relationship? What do you really want out of life?
- Work on you. You now have the time to take care of you. Though the idea of exercise is probably the last thing you actually want to do, do try. Studies have shown that endorphins ( chemicals that cause pleasure signals in the brain ) drop when someone is down leaving a person feeling depressed. Exercise has been shown to raise endorphin levels. Plus you’re taking care of your body and getting it into better shape.
- Move to out of sight the things that remind you of them. You don’t have to throw it all away but put in a box out of sight. Now is also a good time to remove their number from your phone. You might also need to move all the photos on the computer etc.
- Write a journal. Vent all your feelings in it. When you feel the need to contact them and tell them how you feel, write it all down in your journal. Never send it though.
- If you shared home together, move furniture around to make it feel more your space, not the space you had together. You then might decide you really didn’t like the colour scheme and start making plans to decorate how you want now.
- Treat yourself. My personal favourite is new bedding. Treat yourself to something that you like, even if it is really girly, impractical and ridiculously expensive. Then going to bed and waking up is that little bit nicer.
- Remember you are not the first or the last to go through this. The time will pass. You will love again.