Who Even Am I Now?

Rediscovering Yourself After Years of Putting Everyone Else First

For years, your identity might have sounded a bit like this:
“Mum.” “Wife.” “Carer.” “Taxi driver.” “Snack provider.” “Problem solver.” “Laundry folder.”
A walking to-do list wrapped in a human body.

But somewhere along the way — possibly between school drop-offs, making ends meet, and holding it all together — the you part of the equation faded a little. Not because you did anything wrong. But because it’s what life required at the time.

And now? The kids are older. The chaos has eased. There’s actual time to think.
And the question that floats to the surface is:
“Who even am I now?”

Self-Discovery Isn’t Just for 20-Somethings Backpacking in Bali

Self-discovery can happen at any age — and honestly, I think it’s even more meaningful later in life. You’ve lived, loved, struggled, sacrificed. You’ve learned what really matters (and what doesn’t). Now you get to explore you — with all that wisdom in your back pocket.

This isn’t about finding a new version of yourself. It’s about unearthing the parts that were always there, waiting patiently for their turn.

Ways to Start Exploring Who You Are Now

Not sure where to begin? Try this:

  • Journaling — simple prompts like “What makes me feel alive?” or “What did I love as a child?” can spark real insights.
  • Trying new hobbies — creative, active, or totally random. It’s about curiosity, not mastery.
  • Spending time alone — walks, solo coffee dates, quiet mornings in the garden. You’ll be surprised what bubbles up when life slows down.
  • Reflecting on your values — what do you really care about now? Not what you used to care about. Not what others think you should.

Need a Bit of Guidance?

You’re not alone. That’s exactly why I created the Finding My True North Journal — it’s a gentle 90-day journey of self-reflection and exploration. Whether you’re feeling a little lost or just curious about what’s next, this journal helps you ask the questions that matter — and find your own answers.

Because the truth is: the real you never went anywhere. She’s still in there — and she’s ready to take centre stage.