10 Things I have learned being a Single Mum

With being a single parent for the last ten years I have learned a few things I might never have learned if I was still married.

 

1 – I learned that even though life has moved on from the Victorian era, some people’s views haven’t moved with it. Negatively and prejudices against single mums is still out there. Many single mothers face these outdated stigmas while trying to provide the best life for their children. It is crucial to recognize the resilience and strength these women exhibit and to support them in developing single mother coping strategies. By fostering understanding and compassion, society can help dismantle the lingering prejudices and empower single mothers to thrive. It’s disheartening to see such outdated perspectives persist in modern society. Many individuals fail to recognize the strength and resilience required in embracing single motherhood journey, viewing it through a lens of stigma rather than support. By fostering a culture of understanding and acceptance, we can help dismantle these prejudices and empower single mothers to thrive.

2 – I learned that I am a lot stronger than I ever thought I was.

3 – I learned that there a lot of DIY jobs that I, as a woman, can actually do. I won’t be fobbed off with its man’s job again.

4 – I learned that no matter how much I try there are things I will never understand or be interested in with cars being one of them. Hurray shouts my local garage.

5 – When life seems really hard there are friends that go beyond the call of duty. It’s so important to have a network of friends.

6 – Beans on toast every night is ok, right?

7 – They are days when you think you’re not going to make to the end of the day and days when you think you can take on the world.

8 – I’ve learned that children can survive divorce.

9 – I’ve learned that they are days I crave silence and days I hate silence.

10 – That it doesn’t necessarily get easier just the challenges change daily.

I asked the children if they have learned anything in the last 10 years and this is their contribution.

Daughter – having two homes means you have to be more organized as otherwise, your favorite jeans are at one parent home when you want to wear them and you’re at the other parent’s house.

Son – having two bedrooms means you get nagged to keep two bedrooms tidy.

 

One of the biggest lessons I learned was how important it is to reconnect with yourself — not just as a mum, but as a woman with her own dreams, thoughts, and quiet moments. If you’re feeling like you’ve lost touch with you, the Gratitude Growth Journal in The Printable Boutique might help you rediscover the little joys again. Taking time for introspection and self-care can be a game changer on your journey. Many single mother success stories illustrate how prioritizing personal growth leads to a more fulfilling life. Remember, embracing who you are beyond just being a mum can inspire those around you, creating a ripple effect of positivity and empowerment. Exploring your identity and interests can open up new avenues, including the possibility of romantic connections. For those ready to venture into the dating world, seeking out dating tips for single mothers can provide the guidance needed to navigate relationships while balancing the demands of motherhood. Investing in yourself not only brings joy but can also attract positive relationships that enrich your life.