You just had the worse news ever. The person you thought was your friend just told you that they have arranged a blind date for you with someone who they think will be just the right type of person for you ahhhhh- what do you do? First off your friend is probably just trying to be helpful. Do you say it’s a definite no-no and you won’t be going on any blind date – ever or do you think it is a really cool thing to do and willing to give it a try?
I haven’t been on a blind date but lots tell me how excruciatingly uncomfortable those first few minutes are, especially if you are not out with a group of others. You will know after the first hour or so if the person that you are with is the type that you would agree to continue dating or would rather throttle there and then. If you find that they have bored you beyond belief in the first 15 minutes or that the brash, loud person that you are with embarrasses you more than is comfortable, then a second date is probably not an option. However, if you can make it through the awkward first half an hour and find yourself enjoying the company of your new friend, then a second date could be on the cards.
Oh hold on the important safety bit. Any blind date where there are just the two of you should be in a very public place and someone should know where you are going and what time you will be back. No your blind date probably isn’t an axe murderer but best to be safe.
Blind dates do work for some people but are an absolute disaster for others. I have a friend who met her other half on a blind date and 11 years on they are still head over heels in love. No-one knows, not even your friend who set it up, how they will work out until you have actually been out with your date. People really do meet on blind dates and gone on to have very long and happy marriages, others have only met once and never seen each other again or tried blind dating again.
There is no hard and fast rule to say if blind dates work; it really is dependent on you and the other person. Keep an open mind and be yourself. If you are lucky enough to be set up on a blind date with someone who has similar interests to yours, you could find that you will have a lot of fun and want to meet again. However, your date may not feel the same, they may think that you are not their type and not agree to another date. But if you have enjoyed the experience of a blind date, then don’t discount the idea if it is suggested that you try going out on another blind date.
So, “do blind dates really work”, all I can advise is that it is up to the individuals involved. No two blind dates are ever the same and there is no guarantee that both of you will market down as a success. You may have found the date a blast while the other may have been bored to tears. It is a gamble, but that is a part of the fun!