Have you ever met someone and felt that you had known them all your life? Have you ever been with someone for the first time and totally lost track of time? Did you feel that you could share anything with them from the first time you met? Well, the chances are that you could have found your soul mate.
A soul mate is someone who you care about more than you care about yourself. You feel that you can tell them all your deepest hopes and fears without judgement. You connected instantly and just knew that you were meant to be together. However, you may not be certain that this is your soul mate in the beginning; you think that they might be but then something happens and they go out of your life. You are devastated thinking that there will never be another person as perfect for you. Then a while later another perfect person shows up in your life; could this be the one?
Well, actually no-one really knows what makes a soul mate. Some people believe that a soul mate is someone that you loved in another lifetime and you came back looking for them again. Others believe that a soul mate is someone that you grow to love over time and the realization is not like a bolt of lightening but a gentle awakening to the fact that the person you have spent the last few years with is, indeed, your soul mate.
A good relationship where you have a deep affinity for each other, respect and allow each others individuality and you enjoy being with that person above all others is probably as good a definition of a soul mate as you are likely to find.
Please don’t spend your life searching for the bolt of lightening. But enjoy every relationship for what it is. If it turns out that it is not perfect for you then the chances are your soul mate is just out there waiting for the right moment to show up. Give every relationship that you enjoy the chance to develop into the kind of relationship where you truly feel that you have found your soul mate. Then if the other half feels the same, you will probably have the kind of relationship that everyone dreams of.
You can never force your soul mate to turn up. But while you are waiting it is nice to dream and look forward to the moment that your soul mate arrives. Sometimes just ‘going with the flow’ and getting on with your life will allow that special person to turn up, rather that viewing everyone you meet as your potential soul mate. Don’t spend any time at all worrying about it – if it’s meant to happen, it most certainly will and you will know…